2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The phone jinks from the stream of new messages in the messenger, the stream of emoji about love pours in - and the soul becomes warm and joyful, “butterflies flutter”. And in the evening there is a long sincere conversation in correspondence or by phone call, and this pulls you to finish work as soon as possible and run home to the computer. And it seems that here it is - long-awaited happiness and true love, and then everything will be fine. What benefit and harm can this situation with a virtual relationship bring?
How do virtual relationships differ from real ones?
- There is no need to waste time and money on meetings in reality.
- There is no direct physical contact.
- There is no real interaction in typical and unexpected life situations.
- Sometimes it is easier to open up with a person “on the other side of the screen” and have a heart-to-heart talk than with someone who is nearby.
- It is sometimes easier to say warm words through the Internet, and to accept them than in real communication. At least through emoji.
- Due to the lack of real interaction, on the one hand, there are fewer problems and resentments, on the other hand, the illusion of an ideal partner is created.
Virtual relationships can give a feeling of emotional closeness and warmth, a sense of need and love. How real this closeness is is debatable. But the sensations themselves still give joy, give strength and inspire. And at the same time, energy consumption is minimal - no need to waste time to go to the other end of the city, no need to pay for dinner, no need to invest so intensively in the appearance as in real meetings, there are no offenses and long exhausting quarrels, etc.
Virtual relationships are good when you want “to have someone in life, but not a cat” - so that there are interesting conversations, so that you can share how the day went, hear warm words and wishes of good night and good morning. But at the same time, there is no readiness for a real relationship. Perhaps the person is too busy with work and cannot devote much time to relationships. Perhaps he survived the loss of his beloved partner and is not yet ready to physically feel someone else next to him.
Virtual relationships may well help "warm up", restore the balance of hormones and neurotransmitters, which give strength and do not allow you to fall into depression and apathy from the feeling of loneliness and uselessness. To some extent, they hurt less in the process than real relationships, less frustration, less frustration due to all sorts of everyday trifles. And their completion can also hurt less than a break in a real relationship (no body contact - less affection arises than with real contact).
Virtual relationships can be an excellent solution in some situations - when there is no readiness, need or opportunity for a real relationship; and a big loss in other situations - when there is a desire for real relationships and the expectation of continuation, building a family.
In a virtual format, most of a person and his ability to build relationships, invest in them, withstand difficulties - remains behind the scenes. Relationships include only "whipped cream" - sincere conversations, kind words, beautiful emojis and your own wonderful fantasies. And the reality in which there may be bad or annoying habits, lack of responsibility, inability to withstand unpleasant situations, etc. - goes unnoticed.
If you expect that after a long period of virtual communication there will be a transition into real relationships and everything will be as great in them as on the Internet, then you can very painfully break off and regret the time spent when you could build real relationships and move towards creation families.
You may be interested in a guidebook for building relationships. "What do we confuse love with, or is Love" … The book is available on Liters and MyBook.
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