2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
It is customary to treat your past a little … skeptically, or something. It either acts as a reference point for self-improvement (well-known: “Do not compare yourself with others, compare yourself with yourself in the past”). Or the past is covered with scars that hurt the weather; sometimes ironic and sometimes very tragic posts on Facebook are dedicated to them.
Rarely is the past, with all its ridiculous events and a long search for answers to questions that now seem quite obvious, is perceived as a personal resource. This is partly due to the fact that nature is designed for survival, not happiness. Therefore, our brain is "programmed" by evolution to focus on the negative. In this context, the past is a source of lessons, and not always pleasant ones.
At the same time, the choice that a person makes at one time or another is often the best one available. The best is within the available physical and mental resources. The best is to ensure survival. The best one is to preserve some important part of your soul.
In the light of this point of view, the past turns into a very powerful resource and a source of faith in oneself. No matter how ambiguous the situation in the past was, you somehow managed to deal with it. Whereby? Look at this story from the past not from the perspective of a “toy of fate”, but from the perspective of a person who acted. Did you take any steps to resolve the situation as safely as possible? Well, that's great.
Therefore, the next time you start to feel that you are helpless in something, remember what became a source of strength for you in situations of unexpectedness and uncertainty in the past. You already have this resource - a resource of experience and your inherent manner of seeing the situation and acting.
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