2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I do not write about the work of psychologists, but then I got inspiration on our website and decided to reflect on the topic of counseling by specialists to my relatives and friends.
At the stage of training a profession, to one degree or another, psychologists train on those who are nearby. For example, they practice their skills in psychodiagnostics by pestering acquaintances with their strange tests. We tested it, were surprised at the results, but learned how to manually process the Luscher test. Such a training base.
I was interested in the motives of people who are not part of the profession, but who are deeply in it. There is an expression that "the need of the law does not know." I want to understand what kind of need compels specialists to do this?
The first thing that came to mind was that the person just wants to help. He worries strongly for a friend and has knowledge. And, I made a discount on the fact that an integral, harmonious and free person, if she wants something, is not afraid of the limitations of the ethical code. But, this is not enough for me. Not convincing. And I began to think towards the family.
It seems to me that clever people once invented the rule: - “do not touch your family” for a reason. Working with families of psychologists, I saw what offensive things they hear about themselves when they are trying to make everyone happy. For example: - “This is all your psychological stuff. Again your psychology. Don't heal me, find yourself another client."
Yes, professional skills really help to be in a dialogue, but close people are not subject to counseling. They are close, but as they say: - "big is seen at a distance." To step back to see the one whom you are consulting is impossible. Living in a family, you cannot be in it and not in it at the same time. You also need to understand that “our” people are not fools and will not open up to such a psychologist. If only because the home psychologist himself is part of the problem of his neighbor. How can a problem solve itself?
But what about the motive? I guess it's still a need for control. So that everything is good here, but as I need it. Consulting your own is blurring the problems in relationships with them, which are and are asking to come out and whipping up fear. Therefore, it is better to help yourself and divert suspicions from yourself, so that something else does not work out. In the role of a psychologist, no one will touch you and sort things out with you too. This is protection.
In short, such reflections have visited me. And, the question is not that you can not break the rules, but that: - "Is it useful?" No, not useful. And this opinion has been gained by those who have tried …
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