2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
At first, sisters of mercy were nuns who took a vow of chastity, and then more and more secular women became sisters of mercy who decided to serve their homeland and devote themselves to saving the lives of soldiers in wartime, caring for the sick and wounded.
The first sisters of mercy service was founded by Florence Nightingale during the Crimean War. In honor of her, a psychological syndrome or effect is even named, which manifests itself when a doctor or nurse caring for a patient begins to experience feelings for him that can develop into love.
At the same time, Grand Duchess Elena Pavlovna organized the Holy Cross Community of Sisters of Mercy in St. Petersburg, which was the prototype of the Red Cross.
Among the sisters of mercy there were quite a few Russian aristocrats who were seriously involved in charity work.
In the ranks of the sisters, it was ordered to accept not just those who wish, turning from despair, but precisely desperate, risky women who are ready to give their lives if necessary, whose main motive was precisely service.
Not every woman can work as a nurse, because the true work of a nurse is far from cinematic romance, when a girl carefully covers a wounded handsome man with a blanket, and he gives her kisses in gratitude.
If you transfer to reality, then a nurse often deals with seriously ill patients who can suffer from dangerous diseases, be unclean. Every day she sees their suffering and pain, feces, blood, and at times agony and death.
During wartime, these women worked in hospitals that were bombed, and at the front, they helped the wounded survive the end of the battle.
Not always the work of a nurse meets with gratitude. It is not uncommon for them to face the rudeness of patients who could not accept that they had to amputate a leg, for example.
During the war, the work of a doctor and a nurse is comparable in importance to the exploits of soldiers. Soldiers protect life in war, and nurses save it in the rear and at the front, healing wounds and giving hope.
Of course, the helping profession can have dark sides as well.
1. Professional deformation. When a person sees other people's suffering and pain from day to day, over time, he develops psychological defenses so as not to collapse himself, and becomes detached from someone else's pain, not included in it and not experiencing; a person can professionally do his job, but his feelings at this moment can be completely turned off. With more severe deformity, he may become rude and cynical with patients and even try to aggravate their suffering;
2. Realization of the grandiose "I" in the role of the savior of human lives, serving a great mission, dominating chaos, pain and helplessness.
Women of a hysterical or masochistic-depressive nature often enter the helping profession.
The so-called "angels of death" belong to the psychopathic nature, the main purpose of which is not to help, but to feed other people's suffering and even cause harm, death.
An hysteroid woman, like a masochistic woman, is prone to hypochondria, so closeness to medicine performs an anti-anxiety function for her. A masochistic-depressive woman realizes her potential as a savior and gets rid of guilt feelings for a period of time. Oftentimes, it is filled with critical introjects that parents once placed in it. This inner critic, the feeling of one's own badness, the transformation of resentment into auto-aggressive impulses, which are realized in serving others, eases the burden of guilt and helps life to find a vector of energy application and a semantic outline.
The hysteroid woman takes pleasure in being, for the most part, among men. For such a woman, a doctor replaces the father's figure, while closeness to those who thank her and depend on her in some way helps to smooth out fear of them by better understanding them, realizing that a man can also be weak, vulnerable, and helpless.
Often women went to the nursing service, having lost their husband, parents, child, and in their ministry, they were transferred to the wounded, as to the figures of departed children, spouses, and parents.
Why is the nurse figure popular among men, especially the pretty one?
1. Men see a lot of femininity in this figure.
2. They have a transfer to the nurse of feelings as to the ideal mother, caring for them and caring for them.
3. The figure of a nurse awakens a lot of erotic fantasies, because she touches the patient's private parts, sees them, has close contact with him. Many masochistic men find the dominant role of a nurse in their own helpless situation arousing.
In certain situations, the profession of a nurse can help a woman to safely arrange her personal life.
A nurse, apparently for convalescents 😊
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Author: Burkova Elena Viktorovna
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