2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In the article "Catch" your anger if you can. wrote about how to be able to catch the moment of "transition" from anxiety to fear, from annoyance to anger.
There is another very interesting petal, which, on the one hand, explains something, on the other hand, it asks even more questions than it answers.
Adoption ------------------ The trust ---------------------- Delight
When building relationships, the question of trust arises sooner or later almost always. And the issue of trust is very difficult.
In my opinion, trust is a choice
A person decides for himself - to trust or not. But only if you go through acceptance, then this is a conscious choice.
What is acceptance? This means getting to know a person, understanding, and then deciding whether you accept him or not. Do not try to remake, fix, but be with him and accept yourself in this acceptance.
Acceptance of oneself in a relationship, acceptance of another person leads to the possibility of choosing in favor - to trust
But! How often can you hear that the process of building a relationship does not come from recognition, but from admiration: “He (she) is so wonderful - cool - caring - attentive. Everything was so beautiful and suddenly (!) He stopped being so. I stopped trusting him! How to start doing it again? He (she) must try and win my trust!"
As you know, it is possible to lose trust in a minute, but to restore it is difficult, very difficult. If not to say, it is almost impossible.
“Trust is like smooth paper -
Once crumpled - do not align already!
Love will go away as soon as it's good
Mercilessly crumpled in the opened soul … (Marina Volnorezova)
But admiration … I don't know, but totally it shouldn't be - I'm sure of that. Admiration is a short-lived thing. And darling. And if you admire, then this is also your choice. The other person has nothing to do with it.
If you are building a relationship thoroughly admired, be prepared to be surprised and most likely to be disappointed
- I'm crazy about him!
- And maybe better with the mind?
Starting a family: camping or picnic?
Virtual love … Real suffering
Your psychologist Nikulina Marina
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