Anger As A Necessary Resource. Part 1

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

In society, for some reason, it has become customary to distinguish between good and bad feelings. Anger is especially not accepted. They say it's a bad feeling. It cannot be manifested. People want to get rid of or learn to control it.

For me, anger is a great resource feeling if you learn to deal with it properly. I'll tell you why.

Let's start with the basics. Anger is the very first basic feeling that infants develop. It is present almost from the first days after birth. It always appears at the moment when I want something, and the energy of anger helps to achieve or get what I need.

I want you to look at anger from a different perspective. (Remember, when you are angry, how you immediately want to go and do something. Clean out an ideal apartment. Go to someone urgently to talk and resolve the conflict. Move mountains. Go to training. Find a new job or additional income, etc.).

Anger is a feeling that regulates and is responsible for achieving what we need

The second important function of anger is she is responsible for setting boundaries, for protecting them when they are violated. When we no longer like something, we are in pain, we are already too hot or cold, hungry, unpleasant - anger always appears here.

This means that as long as a person is alive, active, interacts with himself and with the world, he has anger. She is constantly present in us, it is a large volume of energy.

Therefore, getting rid of anger is impossible. While we are alive we always need something, there are always needs. I have never met a person who does not need anything at all. The body is imperfect and not self-sufficient. We always need to get a lot from the outside world - air, water, food, loved ones, etc. Anger helps to satisfy these needs.

A living person with a large amount of energy and resources is successful. He has a lot of anger and vitality, which is why he is able to achieve his goals and defend his borders.

A sad man who barely breathes and is barely alive, inert, pale, does little. If you want to take something from him, you can easily do it. If you violate his boundaries, he cannot defend himself. In such people, anger or a small amount of it is most often suppressed.

Anger is a huge resource. It can be effectively used as energy.

I also learned recently at a webinar about balance of destruction and creation … I liked this information, because it was inside, but I could not interpret it correctly. There were no precise landmarks. I share.

Two tendencies always exist in us at the same time - this is the tendency towards creation and life, and the second towards death and destruction. (Libido and Mortido).

That is, in order to create something in our body, inside us, we need to destroy something in the external environment.

For example, I am hungry, I need to fill my body with food. To do this, I need to "destroy" food in order to fill myself. My entire chewing apparatus, enzymes, and digestive system are fully engaged to complete this process and get results. I am full, full.

To create the paper on which you write, the table and chair on which you sit, you need to destroy the wood.

If I am whole, full on the inside, it means that I am destroying something on the outside.

In order to destroy, I also need to use my anger. To eat something, I need hunger and anger. To get food, then destroy it and absorb, chew, you also need anger.

If I do not use at this moment and in general the potential of destruction (anger), then I will have to be destroyed from within.

For example, I develop psychosomatic illnesses.

If I want to create something, but I cannot do it from the outside, then I can create it inside - for example, a tumor, disease. Due to the excess of energy that is not directed outward.

I want to build a relationship, but I can't do it yet, then I fantasize, create images of what I would like inside. I'm not taking action.

Therefore, balance is essential. In order not to break on the inside, you need to break on the outside.

Anger has several stages - irritation, anger, anger, rage.

For example, you are standing on the street waiting for a friend. A stranger comes up to you, smells bad and stands next to you. Irritation and disgust appear. You back down, thereby showing your displeasure. He does not understand the hint, begins to approach you even more or even wants to get to know you. Then anger already appears. And if a person continues further, anger arises. I already want to do something.

When irritation arises, it can be noticed and dealt with in a social way. For example, joke, relieve stress.

When anger appears, you can react, speak loudly and confidently, scream.

And anger is what I am already doing, for example, hitting or attacking.

Rage is a state of passion. There are no borders, it is not controlled. It doesn’t matter at whom to direct. The object is everything and nothing at the same time. There is a lot of energy in a rage.

If a person holds back irritation, anger for a long time, does not feel boundaries, endures for a long time - this turns into a state of passion, an uncontrolled release.

It is important to notice your anger in the previous stages, to treat it with respect. Be more sensitive early on so that I don't find myself in a rage where I can't do anything about it. I can't control myself. I break something, break a relationship or do something wrong. I say that it was not necessary.

It happens when a large volume of unnoticed anger breaks something outside. Glasses break, something falls, corks fly out. Balance so as not to collapse inside.

The volume of information about anger is large and I decided to split it into two parts. To be continued.

And now I will write a little postscript conclusions. Anger -

- not a bad and not a good feeling, it is basic and is always present in us;

- this is a resource with the help of which a lot of energy is released;

is a feeling that helps us achieve goals and get what we need;

- is necessary for the establishment and protection of their borders;

- This is depression, apathy and lifelessness, if depressed;

is a balance of destruction and creation. In order not to break on the inside, it is necessary to break something on the outside;

- if it is not manifested, it turns into psychosomatic diseases;

- it is important to notice in the early stages of irritation and to be able to show, so that the affect and the point of no return does not come.

Till tomorrow.