Confession-biography Of A Psychologist

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To be completely honest, I started writing this article only because I received homework from the One Family training project. Indeed, self-presentation skill is extremely important and useful if you are interested in promoting your services.

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"Fly, so fly …" and "better late than never" I thought and got down to business.

My name is Larisa Dubovikova, I was born on April 21, 1969. I live in the city of Izhevsk, Udmurt Republic. My “broad outlook” (which one of my clients wrote about in a letter of recommendation) began to form in early childhood. Parents liked to read fairy tales to me, and then ask them to retell, so quite early their child began to recite, recording on a tape recorder under the enthusiastic smiles of his parents, a fairy tale about Ryaba the chicken: “Don't mess up, grandfather. Don't mess it up, baba. I will lay down an arc for you - not that one, but that one."

You know, it is fashionable today to ask the question: What is your life motto? Usually at this place I, like most, probably, other people, begin with all my might to try on the statements of various sages, more often from the East. But recently I realized that if I am honest with myself again, then my whole life is spent under the motto "What if …?" Therefore, I have never been considered a grateful child.

Any attempt by my parents to pass on their experience to me and warn me against the dangers was triggered by the invariable “What if…?”. This is when a person is told, "Don't step on a rake," and he immediately goes in search of these rakes and experiments with them until the abrasions on the forehead turn into a bloody callus. Apparently, for the same reason, I had to repeatedly warm up the "pieces of iron" with warm water, to which I stuck with my tongue in frosty winters.

Since my parents forced me to read adult books early enough, in the end it turned into a love of literature. I still love to read, but I do not always find the time. I remember the shock of my first acquaintance with Dostoevsky. The librarian at the school said, "Girl, it's too early for you to read this," but a friend presented the collection as a birthday present. Imagine, once the book was considered the best gift, and it really was!

By the way, I am very grateful to my mother for the fact that during my annual trips to Moscow, she taught me not to shop. These have always been the Cathedral of St. Basil the Blessed, the Kremlin museums and the Tretyakov Gallery with its famous Unequal Marriage by Vasily Pukirev, Princess Tarakanova by Konstantin Flavitsky and The Appearance of Christ to the People by Alexander Ivanov. Flavitsky's work prompted him to get acquainted with the magnificent historical essays of Grigory Danilevsky. Trips to the Black Sea were also always full of a cultural program, I was forced (thank God and my mother) to visit museums and performances of touring theaters in the capital. This is how I got acquainted with the art of ballet and finally understood that classical art is perceived only in originals, "live" and performed by real masters. Copies, video and audio are powerless to convey anything here.

Why did I dwell on this topic in such detail? I am sure that all this in my teens became a kind of beacon that formed my system of values. And I am also sure that the above-listed masterpieces are generally able to leave few people indifferent. Closer to graduation classes, the dream of a philological faculty appeared. Moreover, I was lucky with a school teacher. It was a wonderful Lyudmila Aleksandrovna Oglezneva, To the question: "Lyudmila Aleksandrovna, you will definitely not leave our class and will bring it to graduation?" She promised: "Exactly" and smiled. And after the summer holidays, it turned out that we had another teacher of the Russian language and literature. Lyudmila Alexandrovna did not give us any explanations and I was so offended that I simply stopped greeting her. And after leaving school, having seen the obituary in the newspaper, I heard from her other students that the reason was a malignant blood disease …

Then there were preparatory courses at UdSU with the magnificent Tatyana Petrovna Ledneva, whose lectures are remembered for a lifetime, and yet the decision was made that I would not enter the philological faculty. Hearing about my decision, my parents still drove me around the apartment with a belt, or rather, tried to do it, because they did not catch up:))). By the way, for the second time - the first was after my statement that I would no longer go to music school.

Then there was a medical school (you have to study somewhere) and work at the Ambulance Station in a magnificent team of ordinary employees and real doctors with a capital letter! Three years to work, like on a holiday - it turns out that this happens! But for some reason, the first memory that comes to mind is this: the building was well, almost on the territory of the Summer Garden. Gorky (in any case, walking through the Summer Garden was shorter) and was adjacent to a small zoo. In the mornings, when the territory of the Summer Garden was still closed, it was guarded, who do you think? … One mad goat, which was released from the zoo for a walk. Saved by the fact that not every day. But after hearing in the distance "tsok-tzok-tzok" had to run at full speed, hoping that you would be faster than this goat. True, he did not spare nature lovers who tried to establish emotional contact with the goat! Some of them got horns from behind, and some, you know, from the front …

In the end, I ended up among the students of the psychological faculty of the Vyatka Socio-Economic Institute. I still sincerely sympathize with people who say “I don’t understand why I was getting higher education.” On the other hand, not everybody invests so much energy and soul into students. I was very lucky! The team of high-class teachers included Alexander Konstantinovich Ross (Sadikov) (religious studies), Vladimir Sergeevich Sizov - professor (philosophy), Bronislav Bronislavovich Vinogrodsky - sinologist from Moscow (psychology of outside-the-box thinking), Li Ji Shen - professor of Peking University (qigong). And among this abundance of exoticism, of course, teachers of the main specialized disciplines Mikhail Gennadievich Kochurov - Candidate of Psychological Sciences, Marina Vladimirovna Zlokazova - Doctor of Medical Sciences, Professor and Alla Vitalievna Pachina, St. Petersburg (group forms of work). To all of you, talented and unique, forever young and beautiful, who love their work and their students - a low bow! Believe us, we always remember you with great warmth and gratitude! It was in this team of teachers that I had to learn, figuratively speaking, to live, walk and breathe in a new way, adjusting my system of values. For example, we were often told: “If you want to work with the problems of other people, you must first deal with your own” or “I have been reading a lecture for 20 minutes and still have not a single question. Do you have no opinion of your own? But how did you give up logic then? Problem cases were often practiced, when students in microgroups were asked to independently find and argue for a solution to a problem that a particular scientist was working on. And besides, in Kirov, where we came for lectures, there is an organ hall in a former Catholic church. Naturally, we did not miss a single concert. In a word, this study was sheer pleasure and celebration. Yes, I have been lucky to meet wonderful people all my life.

How do I live now? For more than 20 years I have been occupied with the topics of personnel management and managerial psychology, personnel training and development, business trainings. In other words, I am a personal trainer and certified trainer. Here my knowledge, practical skills, work experience and the constant "What if …?" Are combined. In addition, the processes taking place within the organization seemed to me much more interesting and more complicated than the relationship between family members. This is my strong point and it is my biggest weakness-utopia, which I am still not ready to give up, because I really love and know how to work with people. Let me explain now.

Dear employers, entrepreneurs and managers of all ranks! Your employees need your respect, trust and love most of all. This is what will make your subordinates your adherents and adherents of your business. Believe me, this attitude does not contradict a well-oiled system of monitoring results. Management does not contradict such relationships, but only explains in detail how to achieve the most effective result. Yes, sometimes you have to part with people, but layoffs must also be justified. It seems to many that it is more profitable to hire, squeeze and throw away without paying. There appeared, for example, "like coaches" who advise to hire only those candidates who can be easily dismissed, "intimidated by life." All these "like coaches" and managers are not very happy people in the sense that they have never seen anything "sweeter than carrots" (which, of course, does not negate their merits in other areas of business).

You can be endlessly afraid, reinsured and defend yourself, earning somehow.

You can create a strong team and rush forward. Believe me, it is not difficult and does not take much time.

There is only one difficulty - the leader must be ready to change along with the members of his team, otherwise a miracle in business will NEVER happen! But hope, as you know, dies last.

Of course, in my life there were many more interesting people and even more mistakes. I wrote only about what the first came up in my memory, and, as you know, only good things are remembered. It seems that this is all I wanted to say. Now the bottom line.

Remembering Lao Li (or dedicated to Taoism):

- I am a mediocre psychologist, because I did not have the patience to develop and work in the field of personal relationships, like many of my colleagues;

- I am a mediocre trainer, because I do not have enough flexibility to adapt to all the requirements of my clients, as other trainers do, and I can only show you how other people's methods work;

- I am a mediocre "personal", because I do not know how and do not try to use the situation, extracting the maximum benefit for myself, as many, even beginners, specialists in this field have learned to do.

- I'm a mediocre manager because I never created my own team

And yet, looking around the distance traveled, I understand that everything turned out very well!

Larisa Dubovikova - psychologist, business coach