2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Not so long ago, at my appointment (together with my mother) there was a girl of less than 11 years old. The psychological request for consultation was associated with a change in the school team and adaptation in a new class. At the beginning of communication, the child was constrained and reluctant to talk about himself. Then I asked the teenager to play a wonderful game with me. The girl agreed.
- Alina, do you like Andersen's fairy tales? Have you noticed before how talented a great writer revives almost any, even the most inconspicuous thing in the world, endowing it with a special character and destiny? … I offer you a game. Let's look at the world through the eyes of the genius Andersen. Take a look around and choose absolutely any object in my office, on behalf of which you (using the example of a famous storyteller) will now tell his story. Try to imagine how he lives here, what he feels, what he thinks and dreams about, does he have friends and so on … You will try, okay?
- Good! I will tell the story of the bookshelf in this room.
- Sure! Interesting! Let's listen …
- I am a bookshelf. The office needs me, without me the books would be in disarray and, probably, in the end they would be confused. I am the important thing in this room, but it’s hard for me. Too much literature has been piled on me, and under this weight I bend a little. But without books I would be bored … At night, when no one is in the office, each book in turn devotes me to its fascinating story. We talk and we are interested … This is our secret, which no one knows about … In the morning people enter the office, and we (objects) instantly freeze and begin to closely observe those who entered: what are they doing, what are they talking about, what kind of character do they have? We have noticed that some people are much worse than inanimate objects. Things are quieter, wiser. And things don't break anyone. And people can, and they do it often …
- Amazing story! I never thought that the bookshelf is so reasonable and smart, and its history is so rich, multifaceted … Tell me, can you help this shelf so that it does not suffer under the weight of its burden? Can we take away some of the literature from it and put it in the closet?
- In no case! The regiment doesn't want this. It will upset her! It's hard for her, but books are her friends and she will never part with them!
- The bookshelf from the fairy tale you told arouses the utmost respect! How anxiously she treats each comrade, friend! Can we help her in some other way to bring her relief?
- She can be helped in another way. It needs strengthening. Its niche is very fragile. Now, if a support (a special bar) was nailed to it, it would become stronger.
- Good! I will take into account her wishes and in the very near future I will fulfill her request! Tell her this, please! Don't let her worry!
- Shelf smiles and waits for the promised help.
- Tell me, how can we protect it from those people who break something? Is there a way?
- She doesn't know … Such people cannot be changed, but if the shelf becomes stronger, it will be difficult to break it …
- I agree … Our protection is within ourselves … What a glorious conversation we had! Could you tell your shelf not to hesitate to tell us what she needs or is important, because at a distance it is difficult to recognize other people's needs, no matter how much you want to.
- She will try. Although it is difficult for her to ask someone for something. And it's a little strange - after all, she herself understands others without words …
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From the given example, it becomes clear how diagnostic such an exercise is. They reveal the true nature and character of the protagonist, as well as the presence of possible conflicts (internal and external content). In addition, the scenario described by the client can be corrected: find resources, find solutions, improve direction, fill with a happy meaning.
It is surprisingly light, yet deep, resourceful technique. She works great not only with children - and with adults. I suggest this technique for your application. Study yourself, friends! Explore! This is very important and extremely, extremely useful!
I invite you to joint creative searches for problem solutions. I will be glad to new meetings and productive psychological communication!
In touch with you, a certified psychologist Alyona Viktorovna Blishchenko.
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