2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Choosing a topic for an article, for a long time I could not collect my thoughts and decide which area of psychological science to get into. A little daughter is sleeping in her arms and her gaze now and then freezes on her sweet plump cheeks. What is this notorious motherly love? What lies at its core - hormones, a new status and social role, a sense of duty? What?
♡ A mother's model of love is those unconditional feelings that a mother has for her child. I am not saying that fathers cannot experience such feelings - they can, and how they can, but there is something between a mother and her child that makes these feelings inherent, in the overwhelming majority, to women.
The hallmark of maternal love is unconditional acceptance. A woman loves her child not for his appearance, not for his character, not for victories or other conventions and reasons. A woman loves her child simply because he is, that he is her child.
Research into the brain of children suggests that maternal love affects the development and volume of the hippocampus (the area of the brain responsible for memory, stress resistance, the ability to learn something). Children who were brought up in an environment of love and harmony are calmer, more motivated, more emotionally developed, and achieve success in learning.
Maternal feelings are "contagious" to the child. The child easily picks up the anxiety in which the mother is and just as easily calms down when she is in a state of peace.
Mother's love is "giving". Giving her feelings to her child, the mother does not expect anything in return. It's like an unconditioned reflex - you just love infinitely from just one look at the baby.
Erich Fromm argued that maternal love has two aspects:
1. Love as care, responsibility, stimulus for the development of the child. This is something more biological.
2. The second aspect transcends these grounded boundaries. Mother's love is an incentive to cognize the world, to enjoy life, from who you are and who you can become if you want.
With the first aspect, everything is clear, most mothers love their children infinitely. Children feel this love and take it for granted. But the second aspect is inherent in lesserness. Not every mother is able to show her child that self-love should also be unconditional. The feeling of being a whole person plays an important role here, because it is important to be not only a good mother, but also a happy person.
E. Fromm chose a wonderful allegory that describes the above: "The Promised Land, teeming with milk and honey." The earth is mother, milk is the same unconditional love, and honey is the joy of life that a mother transfers to her child.
We come to the conclusion that without maternal love a full-fledged personality cannot be formed … without maternal love for the child and for herself personally.
So every time you look at your baby, feel this incredible power of love. If you have any questions that you cannot find answers to, do not be afraid to seek help from professionals, because a mother who is not in harmony with the world and with herself will definitely not pamper her child with honey.
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