2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
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Alena Viktorovna, I think I know what was the starting situation of my scenario relations with men - a long-standing event of the past - a short but traumatic bullying in elementary school … Now I will tell you everything …
This situation is associated with the move of our family from one country to another. I am little, not having learned the local language properly and not having understood too much the socio-cultural characteristics of the new place of life - without any adaptation, I was immediately enrolled in the first grade after moving. Of course, I was strikingly different from all the others - I was special, different. At the same time, by virtue of her character, she behaved shyly, was very, very shy. In general, soon after entering the local elementary school, a small group of boys decided to use me as a target for their aggression, organizing a round-up for a visiting girl in the arch of a residential building, through which I (at the end of classes) returned to my home. The hooligans, surrounding me in a tight circle, took up bullying - they began to push, verbally scoff, grin, trample. I tried to break through the ring, but I did not succeed right away. It was scary, humiliating, very painful, but I was ashamed to tell my parents about the trouble. It all ended when one of the bystanders told his father about everything. The Pope stopped the riots with a strict visit to the school. Soon after that, I, having adapted to the new conditions, completely joined the team, making friends with almost everyone. But the previous roundups of boys were firmly entrenched in the psyche, forming a persistent distrust of the opposite sex for the subsequent. Can this ill-fated algorithm of mistrust and fear of men be healed?
Sure! Let's try to do it …
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We worked according to the following scheme. I will show…
1. Rewriting history. Healing a sick scenario. We create the basis for a new plot algorithm
I suggest the client to rewrite the history of her childhood with the further adoption of the new algorithm.
I explain that the psyche does not care how we form neural connections - by:
- real living of certain events, or
- mastering the plot in the format of an imaginary practice.
The main thing is to set an algorithm - to create more successful connections.
… So, we are writing a new story, composing another fairy tale …
When I was seven years old, my family and I first visited Russia and stayed here forever. I was sent to a local school. At first, I (my otherness, not knowing the language and traditions) caused bewilderment - then my comrades decided to make friends with me closer. Once, upon returning home from school, they met me in the arch of their home - with balloons and surprises, surrounding me with their care. The kids endeared me to them, launching a great, real friendship. Every school day I met classmates near the house, we played, had fun, and danced around. It has become our tradition to meet after school and walk for a long, long time. I remember this time forever. Joyful, perky and funny. Time of happy childhood friendship - girls and boys.
2. Associate the healed script with a suitable visual representation. We form a resource image for further work
We create a visual series of the new algorithm.
In the form of a collage of Friendship …
Or a single picture-association …
Let's move on to the next step.
3. We install the visual image in the specified place for the period indicated below. We form a stable new connection
It was found that a new neural connection in the brain is created in the following terms …
- 21 day - the period of assimilation of a new - a different habit.
- 40 days - the time to steadily adopt this other habit.
- 90 days - the old habit dies off completely (completely), giving way to a newly formed - a new one.
- 120 days - the new habit becomes automatic, reflex.
To help the new plot take root in the psyche, we hang the visual association of the healed plot over the sleeping bed for as long as 4 months, and at the moment of waking up we meet with her eyes. We look at the picture during the specified period every morning. Slowly and eagerly letting it in … Leafing through the old story - a new one … Here you - in your childhood - have fun and play together with your peers - in uniting light friendship. You are accepted, you are successful. Surrounded by attention and care. Especially boyish. Classmates are a little in love with you and are totally fascinated by you. You are happy and happy. Now the story goes like this!
At the end of the appointed time, the past dramatic experience is completely replaced by a new one - profitable and resourceful. And the algorithm of current interactions sounds different - efficiently, desirable. P. S … The next day after the session (before meeting any deadlines) - only after creating a new fairy tale and initially taking it inside, the client wrote to me the following … attention to me! I am the same as always - I have not changed outwardly, but the passing men look completely differently. They notice a beauty in me and everyone (literally everyone) is not averse to getting to know me. Yesterday there was no such thing! And today … I don't understand. What a magic - explain!"
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