2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
DEFENDING YOURSELF - what can help:
First, it is important to know where you begin, your I, i.e. where are the boundaries of your personality. This then allows you to understand what you will "stand" for here. What thoughts, feelings, things, beliefs, values, knowledge, etc. of yours were touched, touched upon?
Secondly, it would be good, on the basis of the above, to prepare already the arguments themselves related to the position that you adhere to, why it is important to you, or why you think that it is necessary so.
Thirdly, it is impossible to learn to defend yourself without voicing your opinion and arguments. Therefore, it is important to do this and do it regularly.
I must say right away that the ability to argue can be learned only with constant practice. Therefore, in the beginning it will either not work at all, or partially. I myself did not know how to do this before, now I have a skill, and, accordingly, more confident behavior. Yes, there are moments where I still sag, BUT now it does not scare me so much, and I increasingly voice my different position.
Fourthly, REMEMBER that if you did not manage to defend yourself, defend, convey your position, this does not mean that it is wrong, wrong and all in vain. You are wrong and you never need to voice your opinion again.
Perhaps your interlocutor / opponent is simply trying to "neutralize" you in this way, to make you start doubting yourself. That's why…
Fifth, TRUST YOURSELF - your experience, knowledge, your feelings and sensations - otherwise you can find yourself in a trap called "gaslighting".
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