2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Today we'll talk about charm. In your environment, there will certainly be a person who fascinates with his charisma, attracts the eye. There are always a lot of people around him and something is happening.
This is how charm works!
It's easy when such a gift is given by nature, but what if you don't have it? Is this really where the story ends …
Of course not, and I will tell you how to develop this resource in yourself.
To begin with, it is worth determining what level of charm you have at the moment. The easiest way is to ask your loved ones to rate from 1 to 10 how charming you are. Compare the ratings of several people and this will be the number of your charm.
Now let's figure out how to pump it. There is one stable pattern and it sounds like this "The more significant your interlocutor feels, the more he likes you." To achieve this effect, consider five simple steps:
1. Acceptance - what psychologists call unconditional respect. When we perceive a person as he is, with all his advantages and disadvantages, we do not evaluate and do not hang labels. Acceptance, as well, can be demonstrated even before the dialogue with a person, just a smile is enough.
2. Appreciation - appreciate everything that others do for you, and most importantly, thank them. The more you pay attention to the action, the more significant your interlocutor will feel. Give thanks for every little thing. P. S: take a note that gratitude in some cases works better than an apology. For example, instead of "Sorry for being late." it is better to say “Thank you for your patience,” as you reward a quality that is valuable to you.
3. Approval - or, more simply, praise. Since childhood, we all have been waiting for the approval of our actions from our parents, from a hand-drawn postcard to choosing a life path in youth. And although each of us will so zealously set aside the right of our own decision, the little child within us still wants to hear "What a fine fellow you are." or "I'm so proud of you." That is why, praise your interlocutor for everything that is significant for him or for you. Praise boosts self-esteem, which means your charm.
4. Admiration - everything is simple, everyone loves compliments. I always say, "If you don't know where to start, start with a compliment." You can admire everything you like about your companion, wardrobe items, character traits or any other abilities.
5. Attention is one of the most important points. The more attentively you listen, the more significant your interlocutor feels. Make eye contact, nod, send other active listening signals.
That's all, the secret of charm is revealed. I propose to consolidate it alone with a useful exercise.
Exercise "Meeting an Old Friend" - Imagine that as a child you had a best friend with whom you were not separated. But as time goes on, everything changes, and at one point his family moves to another city, and you lose touch with him. But now, after so many years, you walk down the street and see that very best friend. You cannot believe your happiness that it is him.
Feel the full range of emotions that you experience while doing this. Remember them. Now when you are going to meet your loved ones or friends, act as if you met a long-lost friend. Believe me, you will see how their attitude will change before your eyes.
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