2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The parental message "don't live" affects the child's psyche and his future life very strongly. Don’t live, it’s not manifest, and don’t stand out, and don’t be yourself and exist so that you seem to be, but it seems that you are not. A lot of things are not going as they should in a person's life because of this message.
And sometimes there are very unexpected turns, when it seems that a lot has already been worked out, in the same personal therapy with a psychologist, and a lot has begun to please and come true. And work, and relationships, and contact with oneself … Much and not all.
And sometimes it seems that psychotherapy has nothing to do with it, and parental messages all the more, but no …
A woman (man) lives for herself and cannot learn to get up early in any way. More precisely, not that early, but getting up soon after waking up. Be sure to lie down as long as possible and as quietly as possible. To translate the alarm clock as far as possible, although it seems that there should have been enough time for sleep. Can pick up the phone and still lie quietly.
And it seems like this can be attributed to taking care of yourself and in fact, pampering yourself with slowly getting up is very good. Okay, but … When after such a good time, the day becomes short again and again and time is short again and again. And it's very difficult to fall asleep at night. And the man again and again promises himself that tomorrow he will definitely get up early. That is clearly not a matter of taking care of yourself.
And in what?
In the same message from the parents, “don't live”. Of course, not everyone has this, there may be other reasons.
And it was like this. In one family a girl was born, let's call her Sophie. For her parents, she was a desirable child, and her grandmother did not seem to be against her birth, but … But she was against the young people living with her.
And when the child was born, the cohabitation became completely unbearable for her. She worked a lot, including in order to help a young family, the work was connected with communication and at home she wanted to be in silence.
The girl's grandmother could not hide her indignation, she either expressed it, then went offended that they did not hear her, then slammed the doors, showing with all her appearance that she wants silence.
And the child? And the child, not yet understanding what was happening, cried so rarely and so quietly that young parents sometimes forgot about his existence. And they were very happy that there was almost no trouble with Sophie, only diapers, undershirts. And even diapers could be changed when the parents themselves remembered about it.
Don't bother, don't live, Sophie's relatives broadcast it, be comfortable and then you will have a place in the sun. The place is that place, just what …
When Sophie grew up, it turned out that her mother also likes to sleep for a long time, and when she wakes up, she does not get up right away and loves to be quiet in the house while she sleeps. Little Sophie woke up again and again, and again unconsciously persuaded herself to sleep some more, because it is better to sleep than to lie quietly in bed and be exhausted from the fact that her arms and legs are numb, than to listen to the angry words of her mother that they interfere with her sleep, which means that you are bad. And you sleep quietly, which means it’s kind of good and you are kind of loved.
So Sophie has her own family, but she still, over and over again unconsciously persuades herself to sleep and sleeps. And then she scolds herself that she had little time from what was planned. And then he falls asleep badly and for a long time, which is not surprising when you get up late.
Previously, just as her mother once did, she swore at the child who interfered with her sleep, but over time, she simply began to sleep more soundly, and it was in the morning, and the child had her own room. It became easier for the child than for her in her childhood, but for her, it did not become easier for her.
It is difficult to wake up, it is difficult to fall asleep, the day is shorter than necessary and life seems to be shortened …
When it came to understanding why and why this heavy waking up was happening, Sophie's eyes did not just come out with tears, they flooded all her eyes and cheeks.
And to the questions - what are these tears about, what feeling is behind them?
Answers - how long did I actually sleep and only now I finally woke up. And how everything is really simple and not simple at the same time. I woke up and it’s great and joyful … I woke up, which means that now life will go on anew.
The energy, which was blocked before this awareness, went through the body and, and Sophie sang …
If you, like Sophie, wake up hard, or it seems to you that there is a lot of laziness in your life, then look for what and who is behind it. But no accusations and offenses. And then life will become easier and easier. And you may also want to sing).
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