2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Today I walked with my son on the playground and watched the following picture (admittedly, such a picture is not uncommon). Mom and dad "entertain" their child - "Go there, don't go here, get out of there, or you'll hurt yourself! Come here, it's more interesting here! Ride on this swing, get off this slide! Don't move out like that! Sit down exactly! Now go here Take a ride on the typewriter, did I carry it in vain? " The child obediently "played" …
Perhaps, if your life is gray and boring and you do not know how to bring more energy, interest, enthusiasm into it, then your childhood was something like the one I described above. When a child is not used to playing, having fun as his soul asks, he then lives a boring, everyday life: home-work-home-computer-work-home-TV-work-home …
Because mom and dad no longer say exactly how to have fun, no one else guides, and he himself, already an adult, the kid is not used to determining where it is interesting and where not. Because when he just got to know the world, his interest was suppressed, sometimes condemned and directed from the outside - by his parents. Further - by teachers at school, when the child's special emphasis was placed on those subjects in which he "lags behind", and not on those that are really fascinating.
And it is extremely important for the kid to run through the puddles, run along the playground along the route known only to him alone, play only those games that are currently interesting, climb the stairs, walk on the log, communicate with those children who are attractive to him, and not with those whose parents are mom's friends. The parent's task is to hedge, not to hold, to support, not to take aside, to be near, to be present, not to direct.
But what if you have already grown up, and everything around is disgusting, monotonous, dull, boring? What to do? Learn to play again, now. Start getting out somewhere, looking for something that will excite you, cause delight. Learn to have fun! Learn to identify what interests you! And now you even have a head start - mom and dad will no longer say how it is not right, but how it should be. Only you define your interest. Boring life is inside, not outside. You yourself create a lousy life! It is in your power to create something very interesting and exciting.
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