Father

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

How often you weren't there. And when you were around, we didn't know what to do with each other. The ancient Greeks believed that if a child does not have a father, then he has no right to exist, because he is nobody. In a literal sense, this means that, for example, a man could not add the phrase “son of so-and-so” after his name. So it turned out that he was without a name, and therefore no one. This is most vividly described in Homer's eternal work The Iliad, when Hector's wife tells him that if he dies, his newborn son will also “die” with him. he will not have a father. From the metaphorical meaning of this phrase to its practical implementation in reality, there is just one look filled with sadness.

Once Nietzsche said: “ Who does not have a father, he must find one for himself . Wherever I was looking for him. At one time I thought he was a gray-haired and experienced powerlifter trainer in the gym. As time passed, I got some of my father's from the coach and moved on. There were also other men in whom I tried to consider the paternal that I imagined. Finding your father is not easy, especially when he is alive, and you know exactly who he is. A very persistent cognitive dissonance arises in the head. The father image is disintegrating, and I am trying to collect the fragments of this image in different people. In the coach - strength and rigor, in the academician boss - authority and intelligence, in the psychotherapist - acceptance and love, in the friend - openness and equality, in God - the image of oneself. After so many years of collecting, I can say with confidence that I realized for myself that the father I want was not in my life, no, and not…. … Those images that I have collected have formed my inner father inside me, who has become for me who I want to be myself ?!

The cult of the father in ancient Greece and the subsequent patriarchy (visible but not obvious) have given us many interesting thoughts (naturally the leader in this is Aristotle) that shed light on the current father-child culture.

According to the ancients, the father is the creator, in terms of the family, the father is, first of all, the bearer of culture. The role of the mother was obvious, but from this it was not devoid of its supervalue, this is bearing and feeding, while the father gave the child a soul in the cultural context of this word. He taught to be. To build and create, fight and win, be wise in choosing, leave in order to return - all this is passed on to us from our father. Teach, that's what the father does. Teaching by example is what a wise father does. With such a father, rebellion against him is impossible.

It is interesting that in songbirds, the function of singing is not genetically incorporated, it is developed during the growth of chicks, and it is the father bird that performs this training function.

I am very impressed by the thought of ancient Greece, it contains what I am looking for and what I lack, I find an explanation for myself in it.

Modernity poses a great challenge to gender stereotypes. Sociocultural revolutions leave behind deep chasms in the ground (in the mother ???), into which millions of men fall without becoming fathers.

The struggle for power and the struggle in society as a whole has mutated and acquired features of femininity (or is it a shield that covers up hypertrophied masculinity). The modern father, like the mythical Hector, wears armor. This armor has long ceased to shine bronze or silver, they began to reflect glare in patent leather shoes and sunglasses. Enemies have not been reflected about this armor for a long time, only their reflection is visible in them. But, like Hector, a modern man needs to take off his armor, take off his helmet in order to hug and kiss a child.

The fear of being defeated by enemies (in melee combat is always the one who is closer) makes the man constantly walk in armor. Hugging and kissing in her is extremely difficult, in some places it is even impossible. Armor is another borderline on the path to communication and understanding who is in front of you. Sometimes it is impossible to remove the armor on your own and you need Sancho Panza for full personal service (Ortega y Gasset is required reading before using the squire and fighting windmills).

This has been going on for a very long time, so long that it seems that everything is as it should be. The eternal problem of fathers and children. Fathers are not in demand and not realized, children are not educated and disliked. Everything revolves and revolves (Rock and Roll) around these relationships and there is no strength, no time, or desire to correct them.

Sons grow up as independent as their fathers. Self-reliant because they are themselves. Alone. No name.

They put on the armor of their father, passing it off as their own in their own eyes, and enter the world with the firm confidence that they will become better. In someone else's worn out armor ?! Ha!! The fight against windmills continues, the witch hunt (after all, they are to blame for everything!) Is in full swing.

Sons, daughters. Who are they?