Return To The Desert (about A Relationship That Has Exhausted Itself)

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Imagine, there are relationships in which you return, and there is already nothing there. The entire deposit, which should have been enough for many years, was taken out in a couple of weeks. What happened, you ask? So simply the contribution was only yours and nobody else's. Joint trips and entertainment, distribution of the workload equally, hours of communication, pleasant gifts and surprises, attention, care and participation, all this really happened. And from the outside, everything seemed not bad, but only all relations were based on common interests, activities and just communication. And also on the inner emptiness that this communication filled

Once all this was gone. Gradually, it is true, but surely, the path was paved for devastation, depreciation and rejection. The saddest of all this is that everyone lost, although they could have won! I don’t know who lost the most, I only know who hurts more. Someone who invested and worked hard on this relationship day and night. This is, of course, figurative, but the energy remains in the relationship, even if people do not communicate for a long time. Only then, having left these relations completely, having digested everything and having been ill, a person realizes that it was only his own creation, his design, construction, installation and loading and unloading works. Previously, he somehow did not notice, and firmly believed that two people are involved in a relationship. Of course, there are two of them, but there is one nuance - someone can give, and someone can only take. That's why it turns out that I had to return to the desert.

It's like leaving a fire without support, and it will go out if there is no one else to support it. Similarly, such relationships are verified by distance and less contribution. And if right away, the other one - taking, by inertia, can approach and try to take something, communication for example. Then then it comes to naught. Immediately you can be sad and sad without realizing the full power of defeat, then get irritated and angry, and then, when you get angry, destroy everything around you, and even that which was created with such trepidation and love.

You can even try to talk and find out what has changed and happened, but you still cannot find even a grain of understanding and, moreover, having received accusations of inattention, detachment and selfishness. “How so?” Asks the inner voice of a person, “how could this happen?”, “How could I allow this to happen?”. Then disappointment and despair, and again anger and irritation, everything in a circle, as if it never stops hurting. Here you need to save yourself quickly and confidently, and not think about relationships that have not been there for a long time. No, really?! … Really, really, yes, yes …

And then the person looks around and realizes that there are already circles under the eyes, that there are calluses on the arms and legs, bruises and abrasions all over the body, and of course, what is most sad, there is a gaping wound in the chest, already tightened, but no less noticeable and impressive. And here, as in business, you understand that it was necessary to invest in another project, but it would be better to build a house in general, otherwise there is no house, no idea, no real human relations. Do not build something that has not been built for many years, because the project may not be yours or simply not suitable! Take care of yourself and your strength for worthy ideas!