2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
LOVE OF SUFFERING or DRAMA as a way of life
I notice one interesting pattern in our country - everywhere you look, there is suffering. Moreover, this applies to both men and women. Most people live in a drama that they have created with their own hands. "I love him so much and he is married", "I love another I live with the unloved for the sake of children" "I am pregnant and he does not want to marry.." We love each other for many years, but he has a family and I have a family and children "" Love no, we live together out of habit "" Living is boring "- these are just a few examples, you cannot list them all. Everyone has their own drama - the variety is impressive. It feels like people create all these stories for themselves in order to swing on emotional swings - from fleeting happiness to total misfortune and vice versa, savoring and discussing their stories, apparently feeling like queens and kings of drama, also trying to draw maximum attention to their misfortune of other people! The field of suffering in our country is incredibly strong, due to historical events. The pain and suffering of our grandmothers and grandfathers, great-grandmothers and great-grandfathers who have gone through wars, repressions, dispossession - all this has created a field of suffering, in which most of us grew up, and suffering became the norm. with the help of their dramas and misfortunes this field. It's like in a parable, when we have two wolves, and the question is - which of them will grow bigger and stronger? Of course, the one we feed will grow up. Our food in this case is our feelings and emotions. If we feed our suffering, give it attention, discuss it, cherish it, think about it, we cultivate suffering in our life. When we suffer, we feel that we are living, that something is happening. It is interesting to suffer - there is always something to tell, to discuss with a friend, there is something to talk about. We have forgotten how to be happy, we have ceased to find satisfaction in happiness! Happiness has become boring for most people! Sadly, but this is exactly what I observe now.
Realizing that we are the queen or the king of the drama, each of us makes a choice: to continue to suffer, sinking deeper into our misfortune, trying to suck in the people around us (children, relatives, girlfriends, friends) with us (children, relatives, girlfriends, friends), or to realize our constant presence in suffering and decide to get out of it. It just won't - the field of suffering just doesn't let anyone go, there will be many trials on the way. But if there is a clear desire to get out of the drama and start living a happy life, increasing the field of happiness around you, then everything will work out. Perhaps on the way you will need a guide - someone who has already walked this path, who knows what it is to live in a field of suffering, and who has managed to get out of the role of a suffering person and create a happy life.
It should be well understood that being in constant suffering is not our fault, in most cases these are programs transmitted to us by Kin, which are firmly rooted in our lives. Important: in no case begin to blame yourself for your suffering, making your life even worse. Just gradually leave the field of suffering, create your own happy joyful life. You need to start with constant tracking and awareness - what am I now feeding with my emotions in my life, happiness or unhappiness? If there is unhappiness, immediately stop doing it and start feeding the field of happiness. The easiest way to “feed” a state of happiness is through gratitude. To remember, to find in our life what we are grateful for now. And start thanking. The state of gratitude automatically puts us in a state of happiness. If we want happiness, our task is to learn to be in this state, just to be in it! Choose happiness.
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