2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Author: Pavel Zygmantovich
There are people with whom you do not need to start a relationship.
Everyone knows that there are such people, but not everyone knows how to define such a person.
Well, I confess, and I - I also do not know one hundred percent list.
However, I know for sure several signs that unambiguously signal that you should not start a relationship with this person. Under no circumstances, under any conditions.
But first, a necessary preamble.
People sometimes quarrel. This does not always happen brightly, and perhaps it is not always possible to call it quarrels, but disagreements happen in any couple, without this there is no way. We are not telepathic, sometimes we do not understand each other, sometimes we misunderstand, misinterpret, speculate, twist and stuff like that.
This is a natural part of our life and should not be expected otherwise. It is only twenty-year-old naive young ladies who can think that living together is always in perfect harmony. In fact, even a very loving couple has disagreements and disagreements (and, with some desire, quarrels).
After most quarrels, reconciliation occurs. And just here you can understand - is it worth starting any serious relationship with a person or it is better to stop now.
By the way, a little to the side. People tend to turn off their heads at the beginning of a relationship and not notice the obvious signs of, hmm, harmful relationships (let's call it that). Here is a man in the heat of a woman pushed - she did not notice. In five years, he will beat her in front of the children. Here is a woman in front of her girlfriends mocking her boyfriend's clothes - he did not notice. In five years, she will fire him with the last words in front of employees and business partners.
Remember - you can't skip such things. Never. If you give a hand at the very beginning of a relationship, it may very well turn out that a person will think and rebuild (he may, of course, not rebuild - anything can happen). But if the hands are not given, the person will not be rebuilt for sure.
Now, when all the preliminary part has been said, let's move on to the mentioned feature. He is not always noticeable, but only after quarrels (which is why I talked so much about quarrels).
As I said, after quarrels comes reconciliation. And it always goes according to the same scenario for everyone. Someone comes first and offers to make up. How exactly he offers is no longer important. It is important that someone takes the first step. And this is where our sign manifests itself.
How can a person respond to an offer to make peace? By and large, there are only two ways - to agree or refuse.
And if you came up and said, they say, let's put up, and the person responded with joy - that's good. If you approached, and the person continues to sulk and / or demands special compensation from you, this is a reason to be wary.
But the main point is different. If you came up, offered to put up and the person - attention! - says that he was wrong, he also got excited, flared up in vain, went too far, got too wound up, squeezed, did not follow the words, and so on, then you can definitely deal with him further.
But if a person - attention! - says that you need to be more restrained, not to get excited, watch your language, not talk nonsense, and so on, then you need to stay away from such a person as far as possible.
Why is that. A person who, at least in words, recognizes his participation in creating your quarrel, in principle, understands that a relationship is a matter of two. And that everything that happens in a relationship is also a matter of two. This person is ripe for a relationship. He may not yet be very good at being in them, but he can already learn.
And a person who is sure that it is you who are to blame for the quarrel, who in no way, in no way recognizes his contribution to the quarrel (or any other disagreement), such a person is not ready for a relationship. Not ripe. You can hang out with him and have fun, but a serious relationship with him is contraindicated.
With such a serious relationship will not work. Don't get your hopes up.
Let's summarize. You can build a relationship with a person if he admits his contribution to your disagreements. It is impossible (forbidden, senseless, stupid - substitute any word with a similar meaning) to build a relationship with a person if he blames only you for all the disagreements.
And I have everything, thank you for your attention.
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