2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
She is very, very educated, well-read, versed perfectly in many areas of knowledge, has a fairly good job, in her professional activities she is a highly qualified specialist, unobtrusive, can keep up a conversation. But with all these indisputable advantages, a woman is alone. Let's try to figure out some of the reasons for this.
For the most part, such women were brought up in families where there were rather strict requirements for both appearance and behavior. In addition, studies and education were of great importance. Naturally, a woman who grew up in such an environment has learned for herself certain rules of behavior in society. First of all, it is neatness, diligence, modesty, which is sometimes hypertrophied, and not conflict. For a girl, such a set of qualities is the norm, but over time it turns out that the model of behavior, which is based on only on these qualities does not allow a woman to build a relationship, despite a number of advantages. Often such a woman in a relationship tries to control everything, while she herself has her own set of limiting beliefs about her attitude towards and with men, a kind of taboo. The inviolability of the principles that were good in childhood plays a bad joke with a woman in certain situations. In the eyes of a man, such women are teachers or teachers, and are not suitable for the role of life's friend. What man wants to be taught all his life?
At the first communication, of course, the first impression is formed, this is known to everyone and everyone. An impression is what a person wants to be thought of, a certain image. In other words, at the first contact, we show something with the sole purpose of making our counterpart have the opinion the person needs about him or herself. For the most part, women, when creating an image, especially when it comes to the first date, are guided by their mood, emotions, rules. At the same time, completely forgetting that the goal, to be frank, is to please a man. At the same time, women pay great attention to the details that they notice, both in themselves and in other women. But the whole trick is that in most cases a man sees the whole picture as a whole, and gives little importance to details. Surely, many women have faced such a situation when, having changed something in their appearance (cut bangs, made nails, etc.), some detail, hoping to get admiration from a man, unfortunately, do not receive proper assessment … Men pay little attention to little things and not because they want to offend women, they (men) are so arranged. What picture shows, with her appearance, a woman speaks to a man about how she wants him to treat her. Men want to see attractive pictures, so a woman can show a picture after which a man will want a woman, or can demonstrate such that only respect will be the result.
Women who use the elements of the behavior described above very often prefer to dress so as not to attract undue attention. Horses of this in childish modesty. Even my mother, for sure, said: - "There is no need to paint your lips, you are already beautiful." But the question for whom is beautiful, for mom, of course, yes, but in life you have to communicate with other people and even with men. Of course, such women in most cases dress with taste, but they do not always change work clothes for festive ones, at those moments when it is really worth doing. And accordingly, the man sees the wrong picture that he needs.
And of course, the factor of the opinions of others, you noticed that women in a team treat a colleague who looks brightly, to put it mildly, with restraint. Women are inherently more prone to change, both internal and external. Using this feature, a woman may well create different images and pictures of herself. It is important to determine to whom and when to show which one.
Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.
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