Which Is Easy To Confuse With Love

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Care

This is the primary manifestation of love that we encounter. We badly need it in the first years of life, so its importance is extremely great for us. We know how to appreciate her, especially in her absence. Especially those who have received little of it, and have not learned to take care of themselves. through care we receive the message "You are needed." At the same time, it does not matter whether they care about us, or we care. Yes, yes, we fall in love with the person we care about, because we also feel needed. The projection mechanism is triggered. Considering that love is a complex feeling, in fact, being more a verb than a noun, caring, being an action, is easily mistaken for love.

A pity

Pity is possible if you have sensitivity and the ability to show empathy. This is an important part of love. They used to say "regrets, it means he loves." The mother takes pity on the child, he is smaller, weaker. A man should be able to feel sorry for a woman for the same reason. Becoming psychologically more of a mother, a woman regrets the man as a child. And this leads to a devaluation of his strength. Therefore, it can be argued that a man's love should contain a greater share of pity than a woman's love for a man. When they pity us, we seem to return to childhood, where love was.

Delight

This is the most common pitfall. The easiest thing to confuse with love is admiration. Women are especially often confused when they admire a man. Because admiration is a recognition of strength, ability, and so on. But! Admiration shines with bright colors that overshadow the partner's flaws better than the invisibility veil. The shine will wear off sooner or later, but there will be real gold or rusty iron under it, it is rarely possible to predict in advance. Well, only if you were not taught this by your parents, or … if you were little admired. And just like in previous feelings, the trap works both ways. We lose our heads when they admire us and are sure that we are in love with the person whom we admire ourselves.

Sex appeal

The same hormones are released into the bloodstream during love and orgasm. The difference in the intensity and speed of their occurrence. In the case of sex appeal, everything happens quickly. Hormones cloud your thinking and you're trapped. Having fed up with each other, after a while you are faced with the question of who this stranger or stranger is in front of you.

Romanticism

Reading poems dedicated to me and listening to songs, I could easily decide that the authors are head over heels in love with me. I’m not a psychologist. But I know that there is also a personality type who lives in fantasy, not reality. And all these magic words are just her flight. Art is the highest manifestation of human creativity. Talent is not often met, and its presence in another person causes different explanations for us. As a rule, love, in case we are the object of his creativity. Laura was confident in the love of Petrarch, Dulcinea in the love of Don Quixote, and so on.

Addiction

When seconds cannot live without you, it is difficult not to confuse. Necessity is one of the important components of love. The desire to belong and to own is very strong. We appeared in the strongest merger with our parents and were their physical part. For many people it will be a great surprise to learn that it is possible to love another not in merging, but at a distance, for example. This can include jealousy as a desire to possess. "Jealous, it means he loves …"

So, I described to you "love" borderline, schizoid and narcissistic. Guess where whose:))