2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Many people begin the therapy process with minimal awareness of their trauma history. When trauma survivors are dissociative, they have the ability to block awareness of the trauma. They may know that their family was in trouble or that their family was dysfunctional, but they may believe that they have never been abused. (This refers to the displacement of trauma from a person's memory, which leads to the fact that he does not remember the traumatic events of the past). However, blocking awareness of the trauma does not mean that it does not affect the survivor.
The use of denial and dissociative means does not mean that violence has not happened. Denial means that the person unconsciously refuses to admit or accept the fact that they have been hurt. Even if the memories of abuse are hidden from the victim's mind, blocked / unresolved trauma creates very noticeable symptoms that affect life. Many start therapy just because of these symptoms, but they may not even realize that these are the consequences of an untreated trauma.
20 signs of unresolved injury
1. Addiction / Dependency
Addictive behavior can take many forms: drugs, alcohol, shopping, sex, gambling, etc., as a way to cope with difficult experiences and exacerbate the trauma further.
2. Failure to tolerate conflict
This means that a person constantly experiences fear of conflicts, avoids them, and also has a distorted perception of them.
3. Inability to cope with strong emotions
Inability to tolerate intense feelings, preferring to avoid feelings in any way or resort to inappropriate ways of expressing them.
4. Belief that they are bad
Deep belief that they are bad, useless, of no value or importance.
5. Black and white thinking
All-or-nothing black-and-white thinking, even if this approach ultimately hurts.
6. Suicidal thoughts
Chronic and repetitive suicidal thoughts and feelings.
7. Disorganized attachment patterns
Disorganized attachment patterns are expressed in the presence of short but intense relationships, or abandonment of any relationship, dysfunctional relationships, frequent love / hate relationships.
8. Dissociation
Disunity, loss of time, feeling like you are two completely different people (or more than two)
9. Eating disorders
Anorexia, bulimia, obesity, etc.
10. Excessive feelings of guilt
Constantly take on inappropriate responsibility as if it were all their fault, while apologizing.
11. Excessive attachment
Inappropriate attachments to mother or father figures, even with disabled or unhealthy people.
12. Severe anxiety
Frequent and severe anxiety, repetitive panic attacks.
13. Obsessive thoughts, memories, flashbacks, nightmares
Obsessive thoughts, disturbing visual images, memories, body memories / unexplained body aches or excruciating nightmares.
14. Depression
Persistent chronic depression.
15. Role of the victim
The person repeatedly acts from the role of the victim in everyday relationships.
16. Role of the rescuer
The person repeatedly assumes the role of the rescuer, even if it is not practical.
17. Self-harm
Self-harm, mutilation in a variety of ways.
18. Suicidal actions
Suicidal actions and behavior, unsuccessful suicide attempts.
19. Role of the criminal
Takes on the "criminal role", for example, as an evil aggressor in a relationship.
20. Intense fears
Inexplicable, but strong phobias of people, places, things.
Of course, one person doesn't have to have all 20 signs to tackle the issue of unresolved trauma. If reading these symptoms, you often recognize yourself - this is a reason to seek help in order to finally improve your mental health. Ideally, a psychotraumatologist is engaged in this, but in the realities of the CIS there are very few such specialists, therefore, as an option, contact any good psychotherapist who, if necessary, can refer to a psychiatrist for drug treatment. For example, to ease symptoms of anxiety while you work through the trauma.
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