2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The feeling of guilt can be real - well, because you understand that you did something wrong, or it can be total, when no one blames you, and you feel the blame, like a ghost, everywhere.
Recently, in one group I wrote just information that mothers need to think carefully before going to work, when the baby is from 8 months to one and a half years old, since this is a very sensitive period for the child and the reaction to the physical and psychological breakdown of contact with the mother can be serious mental trauma. To which I received the answer: you are a bad psychologist, because you caused the mothers who are forced to work to feel guilty. Well, in general, the following situation turns out: it is better for mom not to know anything than to feel guilty. Or maybe it's better, after all, to be sincere in this feeling with the child, to make a conscious choice - to leave a child at such a sensitive age for someone or not?
In general, I hit the jackpot of maternal blindness, deafness and maternal unconsciousness. In general, be quiet, bad psychologist, you are not saying what we want to hear))). Sadness.
Mom is the beginning of the world for the child. An unconscious mother is the beginning of a war in a child's life. If the mother is forced for some reason to go to work ahead of time in order to feed her child, then it is better if the mother understands and feels this guilt and her responsibility, it is better if the mother is conscious and able to experience these unpleasant feelings and accept her imperfection and the difficulty of the material situation and will go to work than the one who simply does not want to know anything about age psychology and potential mental trauma.
A conscious mother will compensate for this trauma with her love, heal the child's emotional wound. The question is not how ideal the mother is and whether she abandons a small child, but the question of not wanting to be sensitive to the child and trying only to avoid her negative feelings. Children come much earlier than the mother is ready to be wise and mature. Alas!
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