2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
But how not to wait? How is it possible - to kill memory, to forget about what has become the meaning of your life? It is impossible so quickly to renounce what was, to exchange the most precious thing for emptiness.
Wait, even when you know that nothing will ever come true, a meeting will not happen, no one and nothing will return. How not to be Hachiko, how to stop being yourself?
You have to live the loss, you can't drive it inside. But living can take years of doggy waiting. And over the years, you can lose health, friends, cut off all ties.
So wait or not wait? Or start healing from loss, love yourself, take care of yourself first of all? There can be two options: when you were left despicably, and when a person (an animal, an important matter) left your life suddenly, unplanned, scary.
Then the pain is different, and the conclusions are different, and the actions. But in both situations, it makes sense to start timidly, but still look around, try to notice the good. After all, something in life still holds you, does not allow you to finally go into the abyss of dark thoughts about the irreparable.
Arms, legs, head, sun in the window … at first all this does not comfort much. More want to notice the night, the street, the lamp, the pharmacy. To go there and not come back. But what about - wait? Who will sit at the appointed place, hoping for the sudden return of a dear friend?
It is very difficult to get out of this state on your own. Someone can make themselves a cult out of expectation. Well, that's everyone's choice. But is this a free choice, or is it still dictated by resentment, a sense of guilt?
Or let it all take its course? Wait, wait, wait, wait … Or maybe do something in parallel? Good. Or just work, honestly do the day to day. Try not to be a burden to anyone, not to upset with your fanatical behavior?
But a person with Hachiko syndrome does not care how others look at him. He was left alone in the world with his loss. He is not waiting for her, he lives with her, all in the same cherished place. How to judge, how to change something, when everything dear to him still exists here and now.
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