Dirt

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Hello, my dear reader, colleague, client!

Another heroine has accomplished her little feat. Here's another human story I present to you.

No, not to court, not at all. In order not to rush to conclusions, do not harm yourself and the one who is so close.

I was approached by a young, blooming woman of thirty years old.

She loves and is loved and is generally happy!

But like many of us (women), she showed curiosity about her lover.

Well, how can we not recall Psyche's curiosity!

It is not uncommon in life stories, especially in love stories, the theme of truth, when two swear to each other to tell the truth and only the truth.

But wisdom lies in the ability to keep silent and where not to ask.

Because the truth is that we are not always ready to meet with the requested truth.

But try, explain it to female curiosity!

So my client began to ask her young man questions about his past and he, like an honest man, told her.

He told that in times of loneliness he resorted to the services of women of easy virtue.

It was this circumstance that led her to a psychologist.

Our heroine could not get rid of the feeling of "dirt".

Her man loved her as before, and treated her the same way, but her look (thanks to the truth) changed. She was tormented by jealousy and the desire to wash.

In the process, the image of a childhood friend stepping on a dead pigeon surfaced.

“DIRT” was imprinted in the unconscious.

But the dove is symbolically associated with the theme of love and marriage. No wonder the newlyweds release a couple of pigeons.

But pigeons die and may be vile, but does this mean the end of love?

Of course, my client didn’t want to lose the relationship, and she didn’t, but she lost her look filled with love and looked at her beloved through the prism of the past.

We returned to the past, remembered the events and themes that, in one way or another, correlated with the theme of dirt, betrayal.

The images worked, removing the dirt from the "symbol of love."

Where is it from?

They say, "The less you know, you sleep better!"

So should you be honest in your relationship?

Do not rush to ask questions if you are not ready for the truth, because everyone has a "dark" past, their own skeletons in the closet.

And most importantly, understand that even if you learned something from the past of a loved one, this does not change his attitude towards you.

But what happened to your attitude?

How often do we talk about acceptance and suddenly we are not ready to accept a loved one in its entirety, together with the past.

But man is so made - he has a past, a future and a present.

And no matter what new you learn about a loved one, he is still the same “your person”.

Often it is not a person that changes, but our attitude towards him changes, somewhere because of our non-observation and idealization, and sometimes our unwillingness to accept him as a person and with light and shadow - in unity and completeness.

I want to dwell on the last part of our work with a client, namely, on the attitude towards a prostitute.

This amazing image (originally presented in the form of a hetaera, a temple priestess) was once sacred, but became dirty - profane.

But for the unconscious, any image is initially one. This consciousness splits him into pieces.

I asked my client to imagine the image of a light woman and a lady in the style of Merlin Monroe appeared in her mind's eye. She moved smoothly and playfully and it was pleasant to observe this character, born of the imagination of my client.

The image entered the body easily and calmly. So the once dirty was integrated by the psyche and became part of healthy sexuality.

The eyes of my heroine shone, her voice sounded confident, and the beloved again became so for no reason.

When we get close to such topics, it elicits a reaction generated by attitudes, where there is no place for a broader view.

So, a man who was looking for the only one, remained faithful to her without changing women like gloves, but in this ancient way, turning to a professional (for sex, not for love in the full sense), because you cannot crush nature. Or how often you hear "fu-fu-fu" in response to the truth about the self-satisfaction of a woman or a man who is alone.

Relationships are often equated with sex in our time, and if there is no sex, then "you are strange."

But there are monogamous people among us who are looking for lasting affection, built not only on passion, but also on mutual respect, trust and acceptance.

There are no rules, in my opinion, to each his own, which he is looking for and adapting as best he can. It is more important that here and now in real relationships that very close one is truly close to us, and we both find happiness in acceptance, and do not indulge in the illusion of ideality.

To ask? To be silent? Guess? Condemn?

To watch and see a fact from a biography or a living person?

And what do you think?

What is important in this story, it seems to me that the image of a woman in the psyche of my client has become integral, and the past of her constricted person remains in the past, like her "dirt" that flew in from distant childhood.