Don't Go Girls Marry Daffodils

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I often read posts in psychological and women's communities on the topic that they say I got married for love. He was beautiful, but the dog drinks and walks, humiliates me and the child - beats. I am a wonderful hostess, bake pies, cross-stitch, order and comfort at home. I can't leave, because I love, I'm dying and leaving him is a betrayal (suddenly this drunkenness is an identity crisis and he will suddenly pull himself together and become an ideal father and husband, as prescribed by the general plan of living together). Advise me how to change myself so that he ceases to be such a goat. I have already written many times that narcissism is growing and gaining strength in our ranks, which is actually not good. This greatly affects the quality of society as a whole. Somehow, recent trends have stimulated and encouraged narcissistic traits in men. There are also plenty of female narcissists, but they skillfully disguise themselves. Society does not encourage the narcissist woman. Society likes the obsessive-compulsive woman. Since childhood, some mothers point out to girls how to become absolutely obsessive. A good housewife should have … in general, she should have everything, and if something is missing from all of this … this is the failure of her whole life. For example, if you have stains on the tiles - this is a shame, your husband will go to a woman with clean tiles, and the children will grow up as bandits. Even those women who live a normal, not obsessive-compulsive life and do not sleep with a dust cloth in their hand, in case they suddenly have an insufficiently clean dream, often discovering some flaw in their household, feel a prick of conscience. In general, it is commendable to be obsessive-compulsive and a woman-narcissist for the good of the case can pretend to be her, breaking all the statistics.

As for male narcissists, there is something to say. They are often in plain sight, because you can't hide the beautiful. There are women who only like these. In general, they are drawn like a magnet to daffodils. There are, of course, purely clinical cases when, for example, a man gives his hairstyle most of the daytime. Such men are, of course, very much an amateur. But the bulk of daffodils are still not so brightly colored. They show their beauty and uniqueness little by little. It seems like a rare bird will fly to the middle of the Dnieper, not every woman can see this beauty, but that's just the most feminine and sensitive. This is such a seed that if, my dear, you want to look sensitive and feminine, then look at me more closely, there at the very bottom of the bullyant. Honestly. Just take a closer look. In general, these men are beautiful and talk a lot about it, but this cruel world … You understand, it is so cruel to the talented, beautiful, intelligent … everyone envies the brillants. For some women, such a misunderstood and unhappy on the path of life …. it's like finding a kitten in a puddle. He is so cute that you can't help but take him home and give him something to drink, feed him, and then groom and cherish him, and someday brillants will sprinkle out of him … in general, it is expected that something worthwhile will grow. However, it is a big mistake to expect something useful to come out here. The selected creature quickly masters in the house and begins to disgrace. Women who are not burdened with the complex of an ideal wife-hostess quickly get rid of the creature who is beginning to misbehave, and those who are burdened feel responsibility for the one they have tamed, and in general. If you try for a very long time and be even more perfect, then everything will work out. And if your kitten shits on the carpet, walks at night and steals sausages … honey, there are stains on your tile and you have to work with it.

Narcissists gravitate towards obsessive ladies. First, almost every narcissist has an obsessive mom. She devoted her whole life to making the boy ideal and the best for everyone. It is the mother who inspires that everyone who does not love the baby is byaki. How dare they upset the child! But he is so inept as a kid … he cannot do anything on his own. He needs constant care and supervision. Mom will do everything herself, which is why he is looking for the one who loves and dies and doesn’t want a soul in him, but does everything herself. And if she does not do the way he wants or dreams, then byaka. Secondly, an obsessive wife always knows that she is imperfect and the narcissist does not even need to spend energy on proving this position, as, for example, with a dependent person. In general, they live by feeding on each other's complexes, but it cannot be said that the narcissist's family feels good about this. The wife is busy with eternal self-digging and self-improvement in order to make some kind of upgrade to her husband's brain and is always frustrated that all attempts to change something for the better in the family are in vain. There is also the opposite situation, when an obsessive husband and a narcissistic wife.

The most tsimes happens when 2 daffodils meet in marriage. They actually hoped that someone would pick them up and they would be able to shit, walk, and steal there. But there are 2 creatures in the same house who, again, shit-walk-steal … but in this case there are no those in the house who clean up - wait and forgive - put sausages in the refrigerator. This is outrageous, and each side considers itself deceived. And this … this is a classic divorce of two stars who in the press throw mud at each other and try their best to frame each other. But in this case, personally, I do not feel sorry for any of this pair, because both are the same.

Well, I feel sorry for the rest, therefore, if someone meets an unfortunate creature in a puddle, offended and misunderstood by an evil and imperfect world, think hard before dragging him home. Even if the creature unequivocally alludes to the existence of a treasure within itself with individual copies in en karat, I would even advise you to pass by. And if your soul is eager to help someone … damn it, there are so many people who really need help.

Remember that the narcissist is not suited to family life and there is little or no change in this. Not because it is such a serious disorder, but because he considers himself so perfect that he will not change or adapt to someone. He will never go to a psychotherapist, as he considers himself too ideal and perfect for anyone to understand him. And it’s even harder to count to describe in scientific terms. In fact, the narcissist semi-consciously understands that there will be few terms and they will not be extremely enthusiastic, so it is better not to go anywhere at all, hiding behind his own divinity and incomprehensibility.

- he will always walk to the left because he needs to feel special, attractive and unforgettable, etc.

- he will always spit on his family and children because the most important person in his life is him, everything else is dust, which he is ready to shake off his feet at any moment. All others exist only to meet his needs.

- he will never pay child support in the normal way. Not because he has no money, but because for him the payment of alimony is a fact that someone controls him and dares to take away from him what belongs to him. This clearly shows him that he is not the main one in life. He will fight to the point of absurdity with alimony, just to remove this control factor.

- he will never treat you with respect, as he suffers from misogyny. There are only a few ideal women in his family (for example, mother, sister, aunt), the rest are not worth listening to. The narcissist woman thinks exactly the opposite.

- he will always throw mud at his partner, thus increasing his own self-esteem.

- he will be deaf to moral appeals. Morality and ethics exist in his world only when applied to himself

- he will never do anything for the sake of the family, because he is sure that this family is obliged to do for him. And in general, he is surprised that the family has some other needs besides his own.

Why is that? Well, these are the people. And the most optimal tactic of communicating with them is not to associate your life with them, because there is no life on Mars, nothing of this good will come of it, like the tiles are not three. If you noticed narcissistic traits in your partner, do not torment yourself with excavations on the topic of how to remake yourself so that he changes. Dig better, why do you live with him or her and how much you really need it. The narcissist's behavior is not a problem for him. The fact that he drinks, walks and does not work suits him. He may not be satisfied that you make this life uncomfortable for him - you throw tantrums and scandals, drive him to work, demand to invest money in the family's budget, or even do not support him in a way that is worthy from his point of view. It will suit him that you shut up once and for all, give enough money and drink, feed and clothe, and admire him. So, it is more adequate to solve your problems without taking it into account.