Why Is Loneliness Given?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Not everyone can openly admit that they are lonely or that they have been in situations in which they felt acute loneliness.

In society, this topic is treated with some pity: “You’re not lucky that you are alone. Something is probably wrong with you. Or even this topic is taboo.

It is really difficult for a person to withstand such a message.

And few people pay attention to a simple fact - children always walk in a crowd, in a company, because it is not easy for them to endure loneliness, they are afraid without parents and their external support.

Because the inner state and self-awareness - I am = I myself = I can - only an adult can withstand.

But for many, "I am = I myself = I can" does not exist at all. Loneliness is perceived as suffering or a heavy cross or punishment. “Everyone is with the guys, but I'm alone. All husbands have wives, and I am the only one. Am I defective? Everyone is understood and supported, but I am not!"

This is enough for the emotional funnel of difficult experiences to open and a person fell into it for many decades. And getting out of it is many times more difficult than entering.

Many believe that they “should be with someone, with someone, like children who are always with their parents.

But such a position is sticking to childhood trauma, about the fear of growing up. The person is stuck in an internal conflict and cannot find a solution to it. He is afraid to get in touch with his adult part, in which there is a lot of individuality, uniqueness, originality.

After all, being an adult means becoming yourself, connecting with your inner self-feeling of loneliness, as with a kind of gift and resource for moving forward, self-realization and disclosure of your talents, strong qualities.

And to suffer and run away from oneself: “why am I alone? Why doesn't anyone support and understand me? " - it is to be with everyone in the same sandbox, everyone suffers - and I am like everyone else. Although perhaps this person was born for leadership, for creativity, to create something unique in this world. But the fear of personal maturation, which always implies loneliness, stops this growth. And a person chooses "eternal childhood", betraying his tasks and destiny.

To become an adult you need to undergo initiation:

- get in touch with yourself, - connect with your true desires and needs, - be able to support yourself in different situations, - be stable and stick to their interests.

For all this, you need to be able to make a decision, which we always come to alone. Because if "we were told so" - mom, dad, husband, wife. That is what they said. And we went and fulfilled THEIR will, betraying ours. For a moment we were afraid to be left alone with ourselves, to listen to ourselves and understand what I want EXACTLY?

There is loneliness about inner emptiness, that is, separation with oneself and one's interests and desires, and then there are many:

• Suffering
• Pain
• A perennial emotional funnel
• Lack of growth in life, money, relationships
• Diseases
• Losses
• Suicidal thoughts

2. There is loneliness about uniqueness and resourcefulness, when you connect with yourself and your tasks and interests, you know how to give yourself support and support, and then a lot:

• Growth in life, relationships, money
• Movements in life, relationships, money
• Finding a solution in creative problems or situations
• Own authorship in life
• Motivation
• Realization of your interests
• Growing up from a small self to an adult self (from an “inner girl” to a woman, from an “inner boy” to a man)

Because when you allow yourself to face your loneliness face to face, overcoming fear and infantilism, you come into contact with your destiny and strength, with your uniqueness and the more that leads each of us through life.

You can continue to be afraid and suffer, believe that the whole world owes you, especially your parents and friends - support, support and understanding.

And you can start moving towards yourself, learn to understand yourself, support and give as much attention as the soul needs to realize YOUR interests, goals and authorship in life.