What Are Negative Emotions For?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Sometimes I come across a situation when a client comes with a request to purchase a certain magical artifact: a transparent dome that lets only positive emotions inside and leaves everything uncomfortable (anger, rage, sadness, irritation, hatred, etc.) behind.

But the essence of our feelings and emotions is that we do not choose them. They choose us. And all we can do is decide how to deal with them (disgustedly reject or let them into our life, as a teacher, for example).

Where do our emotions come from and why do they come? I'll start from afar.

Each person learns the world through sensory perception (using the five senses), bodily perception and thinking (judgments, plans, analysis, synthesis, memories, etc.)

We all spend most of our time thinking. Sensory perception is usually insufficiently developed in our country, and the most serious difficulties often arise precisely with bodily perception - after all, our consciousness registers only a small part of the information at the disposal of the body.

Sometimes it seems that a small unfamiliar body bears such a large intelligent head that is very good at thinking and diligently ignoring the needs of the body, while only partially using sensory perception (mainly eyes).

Forgetting that it is the sense organs that enrich bodily experiences and indicate how comfortable a person is in the environment in which he is; how much clothing, food, etc. suit him.

Forgetting that our body does not know how to speak and most of our problems are due to the fact that we do not hear his complaints and pleas for at least an elementary observation of his reactions, which can already give us information about how much energy we have, when we need to pause, what kind of rest we need, whether we supply the necessary amount of oxygen and nutrients to the body. About observing the signals of the muscles and organs of our body that send information to the brain, which it decodes and perceives as a certain emotional state (for example, clenched fists can tell about anger, a lump in the throat and tears - about sadness, etc.).

Emotion is born very subtly and gently, like a warning bubble that something in our life is going wrong and you need to pay attention to it. Then it gradually rises and manifests itself in all its glory through the body. And only then can it be deciphered with the help of the mind and through awareness transferred to another quality in order to make room for something new.

Emotion should flow like a trickle, beginning and ending freely. But problems often arise in the transition from the manifestation of an emotion to its understanding - when it is impossible to determine what kind of emotion it is and why it came to us. When one does not pay attention to bodily signals, despite the fact that the "kettle" has been boiling for a long time. Then the emotion stops flowing, continuing to signal the current situation with a red light for a while, until it is pushed into the unconscious - an area where time does not flow and nothing is forgotten: everything is kept fresh, like in a freezer.

Repressed resentment, suppressed anger, unrecognized hatred are "alive" there and require the attention of the public. But the audience does not react, because the unconscious does not know how to use human language. It gives signals, as it can, so that a person finally turns his attention to the leakage of happiness due to unlived emotions.

The absence of negative emotions is a grave mistake, for which we pay with diseases of the body and soul.

Therefore, it is imperative to illuminate negative emotions with the bright light of your attention at the first signs of their appearance. Let them be. Express in words (I like / don't like it). Give them a name: "I'm angry now" (I feel shame, contempt, hatred, etc.). Each event that evokes such emotions should be split into parts and put on the shelves (I like this in it, but I don't).

Accept your emotions (be aware of their value and importance for your own personal development).

Look for the messages encrypted in them and use the lesson learned for your own good.

It is important to remember that no emotion is good or bad. And that by allowing ourselves to experience them, understanding their messages, transforming their energy and learning from it, we improve the quality of our lives and regain our awareness, developing our emotional maturity.