2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
These are two sides of the coin, otherwise, "I'm a genius - I'm a dull shit." So as not to shake back and forth, it is better to immediately admit that I am both, and what is in between. And also that, and another happens as a consequence of the generalization of the assessment, that is, if a genius - then in everything, and if it's shit - then totally and forever. The generalization "everything, always, never, everything" is the enemy of adequate assessment and self-esteem. Inadequacy is just a loss of sight of the locality of what is happening. More adequate - this is "here and now I am great and super, but here and now I do something badly." With this approach, you can support yourself so that the soil does not fly out from under your feet, and you can find a growth zone.
Generalization occurs mainly due to the idealization of some aspects of personality and skills and the devaluation of others, and without the question, concretization "why is it bad for me in the here and now, and why is it good for me in the here and now?"
I recently watched Bykov's film "To Live" (there is still Sigarev's "To Live", I have not watched it yet), and so, the moral of this film is "if you want to live, you will commit all sins", it is just that most of the population did not get into such a situation, and now until she got there, she believes that "we are white and fluffy" and looks at others from this point of view. We are all good as long as nothing threatens us.
Recognizing both God and the devil in yourself is also useful so that, firstly, this can be controlled, put your nature at your service, and secondly, learn to be more forgiving both to yourself and to people, which in general does life is not so terrible. Compare, if I believe that I am exceptional shit, then against the background of everyone else I will suffer terribly and at the affective stage I will be very cruel to others, and if I believe that I am a saint, I will be angry at the imperfection of others and hurt from that someone is pointing at the beam in my eye. Both in the first and in the second case, I will suffer from feelings of guilt and shame and avoid them, avoiding myself, life and people. Neither one nor the other brings special joy as a result. Both lead to loneliness and depression.
You and I are of the same blood, me and you. Law of the jungle.
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