2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
“I love them all, but they don’t have me! That's why I hate them all! Here!"
Everyone dreams of great and pure love, in which HE admires her and cares about her anxiously, and SHE is grateful to him and loves him with mutual love. Love is a wonderful feeling, especially if you read about it in romantic literature and do not try to "try on" yourself.
Every second person comes with an attitude - “I want to be loved the way I am”, but when it comes to the fact that if love is accepted, then it must be given in the same way - free of charge, i.e. accept a person as he is. This is where the difficulties begin.
“I called her all week, wrote! Gave gifts. And at one of the parties, she met another and does not want to meet with me again! How so?"
A deal begins - I - for you, you - for me. When two adults and reasonable people, one way or another, agree with each other. And then the "deal" about love sounds like this:
He says: "I feel so good with you, you are very dear to me!"
She perceives: "expensive" - means ready to pay for my presence. Interest is shown.
He says: “You have beautiful eyes. You can drown in them. You attract me so much"
She perceives: I see. Wants sex.
He says: "I would like to build a serious relationship with you …"
She perceives: It means that he guarantees something. What?
He says: "We will have a house, you will be the mistress in it …"
She perceives: Aha! So I have cleaning, washing, ironing and everyday life on me …
Of course, the conversation is rather exaggerated, but the essence is clear - he has quite traditional expectations towards her. Any deal has two sides, and in response to his expectations, the woman puts forward her demands:
“Are you ready to support our family?” Which literally means “give me money”. “You are a real defender, you can be relied on at any moment …” - you take on the solution of the most difficult and important issues. “I am grateful to you for mutual understanding, we speak the same language with you…” - the translation sounds like “the sooner you understand me and agree with me, the better it will be for you!”. And if she does not plan anything more to promise him, then after that she gives her kiss. This is where the trade usually ends. And if a man, being in a dreamy anticipation, decides that the deal suits him, he will certainly offer his hand and heart.
And if two "joined hands and went along the path that is called a family," then they enter into a reciprocal business. Oh, family-spiritual relationship, where, according to a conditional contract, they use each other. Because, as marriage is a mutual satisfaction of each other's needs. And when the "lyrical deal" is correctly framed - as a disinterested donation of two loving people, then the "bonuses" are applied. And then this business can be called "true love".
If the parties fulfill their obligations, the relationship is mutually beneficial, then business will flourish, and as a bonus, mutual gratitude arises.
But if one of the partners does not comply with the terms of the contract or neglects, then such a business, as a rule, comes to bankruptcy …
But that's a completely different story …
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