2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
To give yourself time is so careful, so gentle to yourself. So kind. Perhaps this is what we lacked in childhood?
I read the book How to Become a Parent to Yourself three times, looking for instructions on how to compensate for my own inner voice, which at times when it’s hard for me, not only does not support, but on the contrary, contributes to the fact that I feel even worse, even heavier. And I found understanding in the therapeutic process, in my own, and in working with clients, over time.
Allow yourself to be stupid or not knowing when starting to learn a language, or delving into some area of knowledge. Give yourself a chance to learn and have faith in what you get.
Allow myself to experience pain in yoga, and understand that my body, as shown by the trainer, does not bend now, at the beginning of the path. I'm just breathing there for now. Living my pain
Accept the idea that excess weight does not go away overnight, but water wears away a stone. Notice the slightest signs of how the body is changing and how your own attitude towards yourself changes from the work done.
Remove expectations from yourself.
And oh, universal horror, endure this badness and vulnerability and DO NOT RUN!
We spoke with a client today about ways to use in a relationship when you feel ashamed. And by looking for options, most of us will try to avoid the possibility that the other will recognize us in a way that we do not accept ourselves. Thus, the struggle with one's own self-image contributes to the interruption of contact.
In therapy, the client learns to notice the moments in which he curls up into a hedgehog, protecting himself from the world and people. Learns to tell the psychologist about how imperfect he is. To face this unpleasant and overwhelming feeling. And the psychologist allows him to be real, small and stupid, weak or lazy, makes it possible to feel the safety of contact with you "anyone". This moment of acceptance is so important.
Each time, with a new meeting, a piece of new knowledge about oneself is integrated, which forms the whole process of changes, for which a person comes to therapy.
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