2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
A lot happens in the relationship between a man and a woman, including parting, breaking up. Someone takes it calmly, someone worries, people are extremely rare to be indifferent in such a situation. The men with whom I had a chance to work as a psychologist often had the question “Why does my ex call me, wants to meet, and so on?”. The interest in this issue is also explained by the fact that from the point of view of a man, an end has been put in the relationship, and it is not uncommon for the woman herself to be the cause of the gap.
The first and main thing, in my opinion, is that the woman has not yet decided for herself that the relationship is over, and, in this case, the time that has passed after the relationship ended is not significant for her. On the contrary, after weeks, months and even years, unpleasant moments are smoothed out in memory, and those manifestations that brought satisfaction, on the contrary, acquire a bright color. Women are more prone to associative memories than men. Plus, there may also be a desire to live those situations that have not been lived. Simply put, a woman wants to implement what she has invented for herself, based on past positive experiences.
After the relationship has ended and the woman's worries have subsided a little, for quite understandable reasons she may have a fear of being left alone, often this happens against the background of the fact that the woman begins active attempts to build new relationships, in a blitz-scream mode. But at this stage of her life, she does not succeed, self-esteem begins to decline, it becomes necessary for her to receive confirmation of her female solvency. This may also be the reason for her desire to communicate with her former partner. It is also possible that a woman is simply scared to build new relationships, and she begins to grab onto old ones in order to hide from reality. And then the principle is triggered that we love what we lose the most. Accordingly, it is very difficult to come to terms with this state of affairs.
It is also quite possible that a woman wants to control her ex-man, here the reasons will be a hypertrophied sense of ownership (remember Khobotov and the movie "Pokrovskie Vorota"). What once belonged to her, she, no matter what, wants to keep for herself. And the option that she views the former partner as an alternate airfield to which she can return if she fails in the future. That is why, sometimes women are very critical of the relationships that appear in their former men, it is not uncommon for women to speak openly about this and express joy when not everything goes smoothly in the relationship of the former. This is nothing more than a way to raise your self-esteem, of course, at someone else's expense. At the same time, a woman makes herself worse, spending her energy not on herself, but on what has already become her past.
In situations of this kind, men should understand that such behavior of a former companion is nothing more than an attempt at manipulation. There are times when communication with the ex is necessary, it can be children or some issues that affect the interests of both, but are no longer common.
Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.
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