About Female Energy Or What Women Usually Don't Notice

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

A man and a woman differ from each other not only in terms of physiology, but also in a number of other, so to speak, parameters. Of course, everyone has known about this for a long time. But, despite the rather large differences, they continue to live together, and some are even happy. The secret of such successful interaction is different for everyone, but there are things that you need to pay attention to in order to achieve success in a relationship. First of all, it is the power of feelings or emotional energy. A woman is by nature endowed with a huge amount of this energy, which is understandable, since a woman is the continuer of the human race. For men, this is more difficult, there is little energy by nature, and you have to save it. Hence the emotional restraint, which women sometimes mistake for dryness, callousness and insensitivity. In fact, everything is simpler, men cherish and try not to spend what they have very little. Women, on the contrary, do not think about it at all, they have wealth, sometimes even excess, which means that they spend it, not skimping on everything. Including conflicts, with the same men, moreover, they manifest themselves in conflict, both of them in completely different ways.

With the topic of conflicts, we are generally tense, because someone thinks that this is bad, others stand for the usefulness of this, there is no unity, but there is a conflict. And they do not teach this not in school, not in a higher educational institution, in my opinion, it is completely in vain.

A conflict is, first of all, the outburst of emotions in connection with any situation (I mean a quarrel in its harsh version). This is a conversation, as a rule, in a raised voice, the purpose of which is to prove to the opponent that he is right. Almost any technique is used, depending on the severity and importance of the question. Men are so arranged that they argue with facts, women, on the contrary, are more inclined to do this with the help of conclusions.

Example. The story of a young guy during a consultation (published with his consent) “I have to go to the same city for work, on business trips, about once every two months. Once again, before the trip, there is a conflict with his wife. She: You've probably already found something for yourself there. You strive to get to her as quickly as possible, but you don't love me. And in general, you peasants would only run around women. I tell her that this is not so, but she is hysterical.”Three conclusions at once, which are almost impossible to refute with the help of linear logic, which men use. Already found, you do not love me, run around the women. It is useless to make excuses and prove something further and further. But there is a problem, she does not want him to leave. And with such a presentation, the man does not understand what she really wants. As a result, he left, she was in tears.

Women are more inclined to fall into hysterics, for them, with a huge supply of energy, this is quite acceptable, but men tolerate such behavior of their ladies is very difficult. Often, at consultations, you can hear the following phrase: "Well, you think, why is he so gentle or what, he could not listen to the end?" Emotional energy is not enough, so more often than not, he slammed the door and left. Another point is that it is more difficult for a woman to stop in a quarrel, she, as the women themselves say, "bears" her. And at that moment, whatever the man says will be used against him. A woman is always very strong in tactics and very weak in strategy, for her it is a little more important to win in the moment, while at the same time she does not think about what will happen next. Before the point of stopping in the conflict, a woman must take some time, a kind of stopping distance. And she does this all not on purpose, she is so arranged. But, in my opinion, there are several models of a woman's behavior, in a dispute, after which it is very difficult to resolve the conflict, these are: accusation of motivation “I know what you want, you are trying to achieve this!” You look at me like that, are you kidding me? " and the transition to personalities, sounds something like this: "Who would speak!". If a woman chooses one or more of these models in a conflict, it is almost impossible to solve it. A woman, since her energy reserves are much larger, can conflict for a long time, men cannot afford this. Worst of all, when a woman begins to use reproaches towards her man in a quarrel, it is even more difficult for the stronger sex to endure than hysteria. An adequate man always strive to end the conflict as soon as possible, because he badly endures such situations, both morally and physically (men die, and that too). Men in quarrels also do not always behave correctly, but today we are talking about women.

Conflicts are inevitable, and sometimes useful, but you need to behave in them in such a way as to solve the problem, and for this we must hear each other and try to understand. Despite today's disagreement and resentment, it is worth remembering that life goes on and you need to treat each other more carefully.

Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.