How To Choose A Gift Without Spoiling The Holiday

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

It is very pleasant to receive gifts. The reason for them, in principle, is not important. The very fact of receiving gifts is pleasant. Just what to give?

Men and women frantically wonder how to please how to choose the right gift second half. But it often happens that the thing received as a gift does not please and does not deliver the expected pleasure. And if the party who received the gift is not happy, then the donor was not happy either. Let's try to figure out why this is happening and how to get a gift that would definitely please you.

How it all looks from a female point of view

A man usually asks: "Darling, what to give you?" In response, he receives an extremely strange answer from the point of view of male logic. Dear, well, I don't know … Give me something to your taste, look, etc. Moreover, 99% of the woman already has an idea of what she would like to receive. BUT! She is silent about this and looks at the man as a magician-wizard. And here the development of this conflict, as a rule, follows two scenarios. If this is not the case for you, then this is just wonderful.

First option: Male irritation and grumbling comes in response. The woman sincerely does not understand and increases the emotional pressure. The conflict flares up, mutual claims are put forward. The explosion resulted in tears and resentment on the female side, and suppressed anger and bewilderment on the male side.

The second option: It starts in principle, just like the first, but its duration and ending are different. The woman, having said her catchphrase "give me something …" is calmly waiting for the gift. When a man, having analyzed all recent conversations with his soul mate, carefully picks up a gift, he decides and buys, in his opinion, the thing that, as it seems to him, was hinted at, then instead of gratitude, he gets at best bewilderment, at worst a scandal. Since this is not the gift that the woman actually wanted.

Male perspective

But this is a view from the feminine side. And I faced the other side myself. With male expectation. And then I realized that I probably already messed up for a long time and somehow did not even pay attention to the fact that my beloved man, my husband, stopped dreaming … Yes, yes! Exactly … As usual they pick up a gift a man? Gifts are bought for a man for practical reasons. Again, feminine considerations. Or the half rests against the wall and pushes out what he wants to receive as a gift. There is no longer any joy from such "surprises".

Men are strong with their "straightforward logic". And so they calculate the options in advance. He can buy this thing himself, the dear will definitely buy it. And neither he nor she has enough resources for this. Therefore, dreaming about it is useless. But it's not right!

Dreaming is not bad: a recipe for perfect gifts

It is necessary to dream and it is very useful. But we will talk about the benefits of dreams in more detail later. Now it is important to understand how to resolve the current conflict. and how to choose a gift. The solution, oddly enough, is very simple. A list of gifts needs to be exchanged. And not from 2-3 lines, but more impressive. The result will be: First, the man's lost ability to dream returns. Secondly, the list of unjustified expectations is removed from the woman. Well, thirdly, there is a feeling of intrigue, since it is still not entirely clear what will be presented from the list. And most importantly, your closeness to each other only strengthens. As a result, you will spend a wonderful holiday full of joy, tenderness and good mood!