2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We often face misunderstandings - ourselves, the people around us, situations. And it can be a very painful experience. How can you avoid injury, cope with difficult situations, understand yourself, others, and stay whole while maintaining your boundaries? The answer is not that simple.
The most important thing on the path to a happy, harmonious life is to understand yourself. After all, when you understand who you are, it is easier to understand who others are. When you are aware of your feelings, it is clear what you want, and it is easier to figure out how to achieve this.
Psychotherapy copes with this task perfectly. At meetings with a psychologist, the client learns to listen to himself, to look more attentively. The horizons and emotional sensitivity are broadened.
What if there is no way to go to a psychologist?
Here are some ways to help you get to know yourself better without going to a specialist.
1. Define your values
There are four main aspects of every person's existence - physical, social, psychological and spiritual. You can understand more about values by answering the following questions.
(Take a paper and a pen, computer or phone, and start thinking)
- How do you feel about your body, appearance, health? Are you satisfied with everything?
- How much work and leisure take in your life? Do you manage to maintain a balance, or would you like to change something?
- How do you build relationships? Do you have close people? What would you like to receive / give to others? What would you like to change in contact with others?
- What is really important in life for you? Is there something worth living / dying for?
2. Pay attention to emotions
Often we ignore or suppress emotions, and they can say a lot about who we are and what we want.
Stop. Right now. What do you feel?
If it seems like nothing - focus on the sensations more. Emotions are definitely there, you just do not notice them. Calmness, indifference, indifference are also emotional states.
Make these stops to check with yourself as often as possible. This will help you understand yourself, other people, build optimal psychological boundaries, and even raise your self-esteem.
3. Accept yourself, with all your strengths and weaknesses
There are no ideal people - this is a fact. You may strive to become better, but is that the purpose of your life? After all, achievements for the sake of achievements have no meaning.
This is where you can start.
But this is just the tip of the iceberg. And further immersion is better done already accompanied by a specialist - a psychologist.
When choosing a therapist, rely on your feelings and intuition. See if the contact is developing, how free and safe you feel in communication. It doesn't matter if it's a psychoanalyst, a psychotherapist, or a gestalt therapist. A psychologist is, first of all, a person with whom you should be comfortable working.
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