2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How interesting it turns out, I've always thought that individuality is great, and even a bright individuality - even more so. However, recently, more and more often I see that the presence of individual characteristics is viewed by people more as a hindrance than as a benefit. Moreover, a person can be blamed (it does not matter, from the outside, or from himself) even for those traits that are unchanged and are conditioned, for example, by the type of nervous activity. For example: if you can't get up early - get bogged down, get tired quickly - lazy, often get sick - a simulator, you think for a long time - a brake
For some reason (maybe a bend in mentality) in our society, all-round development is certainly cultivated. As in school - there are a lot of subjects - you have to keep up with everything, and if you don't have time for something - well, you have no abilities - pull up, bison, overcome yourself. It is this overcoming that worries me. We are not taught to bet on our individuality, on our winning traits. Instead of paying attention to the things that he is really good at, what are his strengths, the person directs his efforts to pulling out the "lagging" parts, thereby finding himself in a situation where he is constantly experiencing discomfort.
And I ask myself the question: is it always necessary? Is it always necessary to endure, overcome, break, thereby, as it were, becoming better, stronger, smarter? Who ultimately needs this “better”? And do we ourselves feel good as a result?
I recall the story of a colleague who worked for many years from the early morning and at the same time constantly felt bad, not only physically, but also emotionally, for which, as usual, she reproached herself, because there were no objective reasons to be depressed. And what was her surprise when, after changing the place of work, she found out that the reason for her condition was an inappropriate schedule. That is, she has improved the quality of her life by simply turning to her individual biological rhythms. An elementary thing, but why is it inaccessible to many of us? For me, then this story became a turn, it's funny, but I never thought before that a standard work schedule could really not suit someone. Everything was clear in my head: you never know what does not suit you - adjust ("this is a job !!!").
I will not argue with the fact that often overcoming your limitations is important, even necessary. Going outside the comfort zone, moving through fear, insecurity is the path of development. But where are the criteria for distinguishing personal growth from self-abuse?
I notice that clients, as a rule, mean by change either the appearance or the disappearance of something. Setting priorities, changing attitudes towards what is happening are often considered almost the lot of weaklings. But here's the paradox, you can reshape yourself for years, applying superhuman efforts, or you can accept your individuality and begin to equip your life, starting from it. Choose the right people, get the right job, eat the right food, and sleep at the right time.
Chimeras, you say? I understand that I myself sometimes prefer the latter when choosing between “mine” and “correct”. Setting your own values for hundreds of personal options is much more difficult and time-consuming than just pressing the "default" button. But I'm in the process)
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