2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Don't put it off until tomorrow …
Procrastination is a process when a person constantly postpones something, while doing many other things. Therefore, this process cannot be called laziness. After all, when a person is lazy, he does nothing that is considered useful. With procrastination, everything is not so: a person is constantly busy with business, he literally “burns at work”, but the most important thing remains undone, postponed for “tomorrow”
Procrastination does not appear from scratch; it has a number of different reasons.
One of them is an unloved job. Or a case that is postponed is boring in itself, uninteresting for a person. You can write a lot about why a person works where he is not interested, why he does not do what he loves, what his heart is in. The most popular explanations - I didn't find myself, they pay more here, I don't know how to do anything else, I couldn't get a job anywhere else …
Another reason is the lack of decision-making skills. The roots of this problem go back to our childhood, when adults made decisions for us fools: dad, mom, grandmothers, grandfathers, kindergarten teachers, teachers at school. They decided when and what we want: sleep, eat, walk, even on the potty in kindergartens they planted everyone at the same time on a schedule.
We have grown up, but not everyone has developed the skill of making decisions, especially difficult ones. After all, a decision is always a choice, choosing one thing, we must be ready to refuse the other. And this is a risk. The risk of choosing not the best, not the most profitable, the risk of losing, losing …
So we postpone important decisions and deeds.
We postpone - we procrastinate - even if we don't know how to plan our time and prioritize. It would seem that what is simpler: make a plan, calculate the time spent - and act. And you will have time for everything. Give up something, not urgent and unimportant - put off, urgent and important - do it first.
This is where the problem comes in: some people are downright allergic to making plans. Some kind of internal resistance to planning, adherence to the rules, the recognition of some restrictions. By the way, these are the people who are often late everywhere and everywhere and chronically do not have time to do anything on time.
Resistance is best, of course, with a specialist. But just learning how to make plans and prioritize is within the power of everyone. Unless, of course, this is our problem.
The next reason is surprisingly simple - this is an insufficient amount of knowledge and skills for this case. The most difficult thing here is to admit to ourselves that we don’t know something, we don’t know how, we cannot. Well, the way out is simple - to learn. Spend time on this, and then, with peace of mind, do what was constantly postponed before.
In some cases, procrastination occurs when we are not used to working normally. If there is no emergency, then we relax, we cannot get ourselves together, we postpone the execution of even an urgent matter.
Schoolchildren and students are best familiar with this amazing phenomenon: they start preparing for the exam 2-3 days before it.
You can give a week, half a month, a month, even six months to write a test, an essay, an essay - all the same, we will begin to perform the work "back to back", in the last days before delivery. Then adrenaline seethes in the blood, the energy of the sea - the work is in full swing. And measuredly, 1-2 hours a day, slowly … Not inspiring.
Various fears play a huge role in procrastination:
Fear of change
Fear of failure
Fear of success (however strange it may seem)
……….
It would be nice to find this carefully hidden or, on the contrary, visible to the naked eye, fear and deal with it. It is unlikely that it will be possible to get rid of fear immediately. But it will be possible to stop procrastinating.
To summarize: procrastination can be viewed as a defense mechanism against nervous breakdowns, disappointments, stress. And we can deal with our procrastination only when we understand what exactly prevents us from getting down to business, without putting it on the back burner.
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