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Why visualization isn't working
I was inspired to write this article by the experience of working with one of the clients, Irina. For several months we have been working on the topic of buying a car, the first in her life. Money appeared, but slowly, as it seemed to her. One of the homework methods was to visualize the desired car. She once stated that "visualization does not help at all and does not work." They began to understand what the visualization is and why it “doesn't work”.
In fact, visualization works, but only when three people are involved in this process:
- body (sensations),
- soul (feelings),
- mind, thoughts about the desired subject.
And the desired will come true easily only when these three are at the same time and when they do not see any contradictions and threats to the person in the desired. But if one of the three even "doubts" - that's it, nothing will happen. Or, at best, it will be fulfilled not quite so or not at all.
The main mistake of all "visualizers" who are disappointed in this technique is only to think, but not to feel and not to feel. Just thinking about what you want is not enough. In addition, there should be a feeling of joy in the soul and pleasure in the body from the fact that you already have it. In present time. If there is a block in the body or doubts in the soul at an unconscious level about the desired, then this trinity is broken.
Let me explain with the example of Irina. The desire was clear - a car. Specific. There was also joy in the soul from owning it. But the very block was found in the body. It was fear, and fear, as you know, is our most powerful defense. And Irina was afraid not only of getting into an accident. The fear of unnecessary hassle that inevitably accompanies car owners can also become a serious obstacle. The car is expensive … where to park for the night - there is no parking nearby … expensive repairs … what if they scratch … the mirrors are folded, etc. Who wants so much trouble? All this caused strong resistance to the realization of the desired.
Remember your desires … If you want, for example, money, but you do not receive it, look what is stopping you? What attitudes have you absorbed from childhood? What did your parents say? The most common: “The rich also cry”, “I may be poor, but I sleep well,” “Big money is a big responsibility,” etc. All this has become a program for your unconscious. Does it want you to cry or sleep poorly? Of course not! Our unconscious protects in such a simple way, not giving you a subject for tears and insomnia. The same with regard to the choice of a partner. Think about what attitudes have been put into your head in this regard.
How to remove the block? Try a simple exercise that can help you detect a pinch or tension in your body that is preventing your goals from being realized.
1) Sit comfortably. Close your eyes.
2) Take a deep breath and exhale.
3) Mentally scan your body. How does it feel? Is there tension somewhere? If you do not feel it, it does not mean that it is not there. Very often we just get used to the discomfort in our body and stop noticing it. If you have tracked pain or discomfort somewhere, most likely this is the "block". Do not be alarmed!
4) First of all, you need to realize that this block protects you from something. Thank him. Talk to him. Accept it. After all, it contains a part of your blocked energy, which, when unblocked, will go to the realization of your desire. Accept his protection with gratitude. Try, just try. By accepting it, you are accepting a part of your own energy, i.e. myself.
And my client Irina bought herself a car for the New Year! True, he drives in a lot of stress, because driving in a metropolis is not conducive to relaxation … But that's another story altogether.
Tanya Mezhelaitis, psychologist
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