2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
It so happens that a "dear" or "destined" person suddenly appears in your life. He is sweet, caring, gentle and it seems that the sun is shining brighter, the grass is greener, and you want to give everything, just to be loved, to be close to him. Relationships are developing at lightning speed.
But remember that there are ways of manipulation that, if not seen in time, can lead to a sad end to your relationship:
1. A marriage swindler often pretends not to be who he really is
He talks about his famous acquaintances, successful friends, "cool" friends and their successes, but does not introduce them to them. This is due to the fact that he does not have his own successes, and all that he can boast of is the achievements of other people. It often happens, as in that joke: “I know personally all the presidents. Only they don't know me"
He talks about his super profits, big profits, big deals. And even, perhaps, he is decently dressed, has an expensive phone, or drives a good car. But if you are not too lazy and check, it may turn out that the phone and the car were bought on credit, he lives in a rented apartment. And the amount of money of your "friend" clearly does not correspond to the quantity and quality of material values, the presence of which can be verified personally.
So, for example, one "friend" took his "beloved" to look at a three-level cottage, which he was building "for us." Later it turned out that he took the keys from an acquaintance of a realtor (the cottage was put up for sale by the owners).
2. Lack of property and money
If you ask a marriage swindler, where is the money he earned, you will learn a "terrible" story, about how he was "thrown", "boarded", "framed" by partners, friends or relatives, he has a greedy ex-wife or a seriously ill mother -dad, child. And right now, thanks to you, he will be able to spread his wings, start a new business and get rich again and make you rich. To do this, you need very little: take a large loan, sell an apartment, give him all your savings, invest in a joint business.
3. He already calls you his wife and is eager to get married as soon as possible
Talking about a wedding, children and a wonderful future together captivates the heart. The marriage swindler says, using the pronoun "WE": our future, our apartment … But everything just doesn't work out - now one circumstance, then another - well, just about, as soon as you take out a loan, we will immediately sign …. He can quite responsibly go to the registration of marriage. Then to persuade you to buy an apartment or a car in common property with your money, so that later you can quickly divorce and sue half of all property or inheritance, or even hide with the entire amount of money before buying.
4. The marriage swindler gives flowers and even many gifts
The value of gifts depends somewhat on the "value" that you represent for him. That is, whether he just wants to live in your apartment or hopes to share it in half with you, promote you on a large loan, or simply eat at your expense. But gifts are either inexpensive, or purchased at sales, taken from a former lover, or bought at your expense. An expensive gift does not mean a seriousness of intention, but means that he expects to receive a large amount from you.
For example, in order to take possession of the money from the sale of an apartment worth 5 million rubles, he can give earrings with diamonds for 50 thousand rubles.
5. He speaks many and often words of love
Compliments, praise, declarations of love, you get in abundance. Not only daily, but several times a day. Orally, in SMS, in prose, in poetry … The calculation here is that "women love with their ears", that you will not wait for sweet and desirable words from an average and loving man.
A man fit for a serious family relationship is usually laconic and prefers to express his love in actions of caring. Instead of flowers, he will buy meat, and instead of compliments, he will pick you up from work in the evening so that you do not freeze at the bus stop, or he will refuel your car.
6. Promises to make you happy and solve ALL your problems
A marriage swindler swears that he will do EVERYTHING to make you happy, take upon himself the solution of all your problems and protect you from the vicissitudes of fate. He is ready to work day and night for your bright future together, so he comes home late. And as soon as you begin to live and live together and make good money, it turns out that it is you who will have to solve his endless problems.
7. A marriage swindler seeks to quickly get into your house and gain a foothold there.
"We decided to get married, so let's start living together now." Try to refuse and get a demonstrative resentment and bewilderment about your distrust.
8. He, of course, “does not separate” your child from you and is ready to become his “own mother and real father”
But for some reason, he does not pay child support for children from a previous marriage, does not communicate with them, or has a very formal relationship.
9. Lack of social circle
A marriage swindler tries not to introduce his beloved to friends and relatives for various reasons: an orphan, came from afar, does not want to communicate with anyone at the moment. So that when we meet, the truthful information about your chosen one does not become clear.
10. You cannot easily get rid of it
After all, the marriage swindler will suddenly fall ill, and you will be forced to take care of him at home or in the hospital. Or suddenly he will be left without work - after all, you cannot leave him to his fate.
11. Favorite trick: "hook" you on the feeling of guilt
A marriage swindler may threaten you that he will commit suicide (open his veins, drink pills, etc.) if you do not believe in his sincerity, doubt his love for you, break his heart with your cruelty. And in general, your questions, doubts and distrust are evidence of your "dislike" for him, for the one who is ready for anything for you and your love!
Do not be mistaken that only wealthy women become victims of the manipulator. For some, it is enough to live on your territory. Even if it is a rented apartment, it is you who pay for it, not him. You buy food, clothes and shoes. After all, he has difficult times, but as soon as he gets a job, starts his own business, he will immediately make you rich and return everything in full. He has free sex with you, because you are truly loving, and not some mercantile and greedy person, and money is not the main thing for you, the main thing is love and relationship with him!
The manipulator's tricks fall into women with low self-esteem, with a tendency to feel guilty, waiting for a person who will make them happy.
All the information presented is relevant for men who may fall for the bait of scammers.
How not to get hooked?
Don't feel sorry for or save the man. Before you, he did not live on another planet, and since he is still alive, then he will cope with his tasks on his own.
Take your time to get into close relationships. Wait out the heat of passions and the storm of emotions. In a state of intoxication with feelings, it is difficult to make a sober and balanced decision.
First, get to know the person well, his social circle, occupation, lifestyle. Make sure that you have his own material values, property, income.
Be calm about the stories and words of love - these are just words.
Do not fall for the manipulation of guilt: you owe nothing to anyone and are not guilty of anything. You are responsible for your life, and he is responsible for his, and everyone lives the life they choose.
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