2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
There is no such thing that you have learned to accept people and now you will always live in acceptance. Each time it will happen or not. It is impossible to accept one person, and automatically learn to accept everyone. Life is changing, your ability to accept is constantly evolving. Your acceptance of yourself also changes, because for you personally it happens that you accept yourself, and sometimes you do not.
Acceptance is not a skill. This is a luxury
You need to grow up to it. Acceptance of other people is a characteristic of your maturity. Self-acceptance is only one part.
Just like forgiving other people, accepting other people, the ability to give from an excess, create from an excess, and love from an excess - you have to come to all of this.
But the process itself will never end. You will never get to the point where you can say - I accept, forgive and love everyone. It just can't happen. And this is good. This suggests that the development process does not stop, and if we develop, we live.
Sometimes acceptance comes with age
Sometimes the age comes alone.
If you strive to become a little more mature, stable, empathetic, sensitive, loving, caring and accepting, then at 80 years old, when you become a fundamentally different person, you will be able to accept many more other people. If you become a little more aware every day, a little more free, there is a great chance that at 80 you will accept much more in people than you accept now.
But even then you will have something to strive for
It's not about learning to accept all people. It's not needed. Maturity and wisdom are characteristics of a different attitude towards life. This is an attitude towards life with a high, with the understanding that you like to live.
The ability to care, love, create, create are all characteristics of the same developmental process.
You shouldn't focus on self-acceptance either
How can you accept yourself if you don't know who you are? You can always find out about yourself such that your ability to accept is simply paralyzed. The ability to accept yourself in your reactions is directly proportional to the amount of news you learn about yourself per unit of time. If over the past 10 years you have learned practically nothing about yourself, then the good news is that you will not worry much about this topic. And the bad news is that you will not develop either - there is no news, there is nothing to accept.
But if you have learned a lot about yourself, then every time it is a challenge for you - in relation to the acceptance of yourself and other people. This is the path you tread, or you do not tread. It's a free choice, it's a decision to go. Acceptance is just one aspect of this path.
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