If The Stars Are Lit, Then Someone Needs It

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

If the stars are lit, it means that someone needs it. In other words, if a couple stays together, then they have something out of it. No, of course, there are circumstances when it is impossible to break off a family relationship right now. But more often - there is a need for them. Let's take some examples

Imagine a young, pretty, intelligent woman, always ready for travel, adventure, and for whom to break into the mountains for a weekend is a piece of cake. She builds a career, reads books, loves long walks and generally exudes optimism and joy in life. And her man still does not really understand what he wants to do in life, from his hobbies he has computer games, he does not like to go for walks, however, as well as to an unloved job (he just does not yet know what to change it for), I was with her in the three nearest countries, because the rest are far away and not as interesting as the next tournament of the game. They almost have no common acquaintances, because he is not interested in her in cafes, and she does not understand him on the Internet. Joint interests and time spent together 0, 01. She desperately wants to instill in him an interest in travel, or at least breathe into him a small percentage of her own thirst for life. But for 7 years now it has not been possible to do this. He remains an uninitiated couch potato. She periodically gets angry and says that he is hopeless and you can't cook any family porridge with him.

She chooses him every day because he is safe. He will never raise a hand on her, as his stepfather did when he was in a bad mood. He will not betray her, as my mother did when she turned away and “did not notice” these antics of her husband. He will not say that she is nothing and will not achieve anything, as her first boyfriend did. He will not go to another, because she has a third size chest, he will not say that she is a complete zero in bed, as did guy # 2 and guy # 3. Yes, she will not walk with him in Great Chinese and will not see the Taj Mahal with him. But she always knows where to look for him and that she is the best for him. And also that she inspires him, albeit for small victories over himself.

Or so. He is 32, she is 31. He was a young employee in a large company, but he really wanted to make a career. She was and remains the daughter of the owner of one of the leading companies in the country. And it was she who began looking for his location ten years ago. This could not but flatter and they began to meet. Then he was hired by her father's company and he even ceased to be an ordinary employee. She often acted like a moody girl, doing only what she wants. She walked wherever and with whom she wanted, visited the countries that she liked, laughed at his attempts to talk about feelings, offered to find herself another if something did not suit him. Then she became pregnant and his daughter was born. A little princess who wanted to give her the very best. She didn't really want to deal with the baby, because “you wanted a child,” and continued to take care of her life, because clever psychologists say so - do what you want. And now he still works in her father's company in a not very small position, but without any special powers. He has almost no common present with his wife, he is almost used to the fact that his emotions and experiences are not important and "you invented them yourself." More often than not, he is completely unhappy in this relationship. And he still does not leave them.

In fact, deep down, he's not at all sure that he deserves better. He doesn’t know if he can rebuild his career, because he has been doing “something” all the time, but not what he wanted. And I didn't know what I wanted, either, because I did what I needed to do. He does not know whether he will be able to occupy a niche of the same status, he does not know who he will become without this relationship. He does not know if he can cope with all the difficulties of finding himself in this particular world. Therefore he remains.