2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Marriage as a socially formalized designation of the family is a kind of field for the peculiarities of the culture of the time, hence the Super-Ego of society, and a frame within which the drives of the Unconscious are raging.
Obvious-incredible from the history of family relationships.
1. Marriage of military and civil servants in the 19th century was allowed only with the consent of the authorities.
The famous professor of jurisprudence Meyer wrote in his "Russian Civil Law" on this score that "the content received from the government by military personnel is barely enough for a decent maintenance of a lonely person and satisfying the needs of the service." That is, the bosses had to assess whether a particular person at a particular place of service would have income sufficient for at least two. And also the authorities had to be aware of whether the soldier had real estate or shares. The lower ranks were forbidden to marry at all!
In relation to all civil servants, the rule was that if the authorities were not informed about the marriage, then the marriage was still considered valid, but a severe reprimand was entered into the track record.
2. A terrible verdict in divorce was the wording "condemnation to perpetual celibacy." The notorious "crown of celibacy", in other words. Such punishment concerned, for example, "the irrefutable assumption of incapacity for marriage," that is, incapacity for family life. These included, but were not limited to, impotence and failure to perform sexual conjugal duties, inability to support a family or care for loved ones, and adultery and bigamy.
This point is mentioned in notes about the Eliseev family, Gabrielle Groer, the great-granddaughter of the merchant Eliseev, who is now responsible in France for the study of the Russian language, being the inspector general of the Ministry of Education.
So Groer tells how the daughter of the merchant Eliseev, Liza, married the merchant's son, Lieutenant Novitsky. But after 11 years of marriage, she filed for divorce and her husband received a shameful condemnation of celibacy. His shock was so great that after a month and a half he died of a heart attack.
By the way, about the Eliseevs. The widow of the founder of the dynasty, the former large peasant Peter Eliseev, Maria received from him an inheritance of 2 merchants' guild. They had three adult sons, but Margavrilna herself took up the business and a few years later presented income for 1 guild. That is, she became a woman oligarch, which for 1832 was also from a series of incredible.
And another incredible story. Everyone knows the famous Moscow Eliseevsky store. Gilding and abundance. Its founder is billionaire Grigory Eliseev, the last of the food dynasty, whose development was stopped not by the revolution at all, but by a family problem.
At the age of 50, Grigory Eliseev achieved everything: a supplier of food to the palace, France awarded him an order for the largest import, a shareholder of the first Russian automobile plant, a horse breeder, received the nobility. He had five children who were more interested in science than other merchant children.
And at the age of 50, he fell in love with the 29-year-old wife of the jeweler Vera. When divorced for his capital, he left himself his youngest beloved daughter Mashenka. She was heavily guarded, but the sons hired specialists of such a high level that the sister of the billionaire dad was stolen and hid. The former wife of the oligarch soon after the divorce hanged herself on her scythe. And Gregory, three weeks after the funeral, married Vera and, leaving all business in Russia, left for France forever. The sons, blaming their father for the death of their mother, abandoned him and the family business, nobility and inheritance.
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