Big Brother Is Watching You

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Big brother is watching you

Geese, geese! - Ha-ha-ha. - Do you want to eat? - Yes Yes Yes. - Well, fly! - We can not! The gray wolf under the mountain won't let us home! - Well, fly as you like, just take care of your wings!

With an inferiority complex, a person has the conviction that he is insignificant, because he cannot get what he needs. And it can be anything you want, from relationships to a new job. Having investigated the reasons for this inconsistency, I dare to assert that a person cannot "cannot", it is strictly forbidden to him

I will give an example, which is a kind of collective image from practice.

The man wants to open his own business. At the moment, he is a business manager in someone else's business. He completely leads it independently, the owner of the business does not participate in management and only chooses from the strategies proposed by this very man. When the protagonist of our example begins to plan his business, strange things begin to happen to him, he becomes dull, falls asleep, is distracted. He has a terrible headache. He puts it off and says, I'll think about it next time. But another time the situation repeats itself. When he thinks about someone else's business, his mind is bright, he is effective and productive, when about his own, a fool-fool with a throbbing in his temples.

But he can sometimes dream, sometimes when he drinks, about how he would begin to respect himself if he was not a subordinate, but an owner. The owner of an ideal business that will arise immediately. To dream of how he would organize everything there differently.

You can dream, but for some reason it is forbidden to do anything in that direction. The body instantly rears up and even if you take at least half a step in that direction, you begin to attack.

A similar situation is when a woman (man) dreams of a relationship, but on a date behaves like a fool-fool (fool-fool). And most importantly, he cannot understand what such and such has come over me, and my stomach also ached badly, diarrhea with gastritis at the same time.

A similar situation happens not only with work and relationships, but even with writing posts in FB. A person has a lot of thoughts and seems to have something to write, but this can only be done in imagination. In reality, no, no. And the pressure rises or, on the contrary, falls, even about the thought of starting.

After all these attempts to start doing something in the direction of business, relationships, posts, a person usually concludes: “I am a nonentity, I knew it. I will forbid myself to even think about it, or even try to start it."

This conclusion turns out to be fatally flawed. Because it is a complete, 100% lie, the truth turned inside out with a minus sign. Such "anti-truth" is easy to recognize by hopelessness, hopelessness and finiteness in thinking.

Now we will try with you to turn the understanding of what is happening on the front side, finding the truth.

A person is strictly forbidden to open his own business, be in a relationship, write posts. This categorically has one "but", one condition that hides this prohibition. It is stored in the human psyche like this: “You can open your own business, but it should be profitable at once and everyone should admire your ability to do business. You can start a relationship, but the partner must accept you for who you are, and immediately want to marry you (get married). You can write a post, but five hundred people have to like it and make three hundred shares."

And your "Gray Wolf" says to you, "fly," who won't let you in, "fly, fly, just look at your wings there."

Caring Gray Wolf, isn't it? And you think: “Who forbids me, really, my life, I have all the opportunities. This is me lazy / stupid / ugly. I am nothing. " The problem is that “protecting your wings” is an impossible condition in advance, because there is not a gray wolf waiting for you, but a man with an ax. Who will begin to cut at you with a feeling of guilt, with the suggestion of inferiority to you, and you will be so hurt, so unbearably ashamed that you will think: "It is easier to die than to endure this."And your body will help you not to fly, it will help you lie paralyzed.

This is your whole life, which is conditioned by trauma, like a cage that protects you and at the same time does not release you. You can only do what you will not be drowned in this trauma again. Let me explain now.

This character forbidding you to receive what you want is in your blind zone, because you had to bury, hide from yourself in a deep unconscious experience. Get out of sight of your, as it were, shame, shame and intolerance of what is happening. In order not to open this sarcophagus, you can do what you did not succeed, only in case of 100% success, that is, in case of a guarantee that you will not fall into similar circumstances. And your psyche unmistakably recognizes when you try to make your realization, forbidding you to start at all, or destroying, distorting, melting it into a "painless format" for you. Your body becomes a guardian, and if you still make a desperate attempt to jerk, it will fire a control shot with pain so that you don't rock the boat.

Do you know why this is so? Do you know what happened as a child? When you tried to do something yourself, your work was devalued and ridiculed, but when you did what your parents told you, you were praised and proud of yourself. When you tried to be sincere and open in a relationship, they pushed you away, doused you with cold, and allowed you to be only compliant, then they accepted. When you tried to draw the first conclusions, conclusions, they looked at you as if you were insane and you were allowed to be stupid and understandable, or, in extreme cases, to quote the classics and read not your own poetry. No one has ever explained to you that there are stages, there are mistakes, there is becoming, there is potential that opens up gradually, and relations need to be built bit by bit, and your thoughts at the beginning can be "lame", the main thing is that they are exclusively yours and you tried to do it.

That shame is still with you, your pain reliably protects you, your dormant feeling of guilt is a better means of preventing unwanted pregnancy. You are not allowed, you are in a cage, but you think that you cannot and you resign yourself to live in it.

Remember, please, how you allowed yourself to do something for yourself, only if it was approved by an external person. If you want to buy a new thing, do you look at yourself in it through the eyes of whom? It's not enough for you to like her. Okay, food and rags are somehow easier. Let's better imagine how you want to publish your opinion on the FB, which differs from the majority, and you already imagine how they will attack you in the comments, reproaching you for ignorance, unprofessionalism, but you want to publish it, you want to tell the world I am. And you freeze and repost someone else's text or a photo of cats, or your own photo (people like it well), or a post “everyone will like it”, in which you reflect the banal, referring to the “smart ones” or express an overheard common opinion.

Internal censorship is not a joke.

- Well, please, well, can I go on a date?

- You know that nobody really needs you?

- I know, I do it just like that, take a walk with a person, and then he will leave me.

- You're not lying now? You know that only if he is a prince and marry you right away, you can go to a meeting? Do you remember how much it hurt you when you were dumped a hundred times before? Do you want to run into it again?

- I told you that I was prepared, that he would leave me, I understand that he is not a prince, I understand that no one needs me.

- Okay, then go.

And she went, ready to look at him with eyes full of hatred for the future pain that he would cause her, and she behaved accordingly, full of cynicism, sarcasm and other types of aggression. And he also walked with such a state. He thought, "She is not a princess," and she thought, "He is not a prince." And the boa thought, well, this relationship is in fig.

How we can manifest ourselves in reality is due to the trauma we have experienced, that is, the prohibitions that protect us from pain. The protection is early, therefore there are so many psychosomatics that will create unbearable pain or even paralyze them with impotence. When we do carry out an activity that has been previously censored, we behave in a way that we certainly will not satisfy our needs and will not realize ourselves. Because there is a minimum of individuality and a maximum of "ideality", which in figs is not needed by anyone, people have enough of their own.

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