2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-12 20:57
The elephant does not react to Pug, because he firmly knows that he is an elephant - big, strong, beautiful, intelligent, has a sense of his own dignity, and he clearly sees Pug - a little dog, which has neither intelligence, nor imagination, only show off, instead of real strength - an attempt to show off. The elephant perfectly understands who he is, who the Pug is, and understands that the Pug will not harm him.
But if the elephant thought he was a mouse, he would get scared and run away. If he thought he was the same mongrel, he would start dogging with her. However, the elephant knows his strength and realizes the whole pointlessness of the attempts of a small dog.
In life, it often happens that some kind of "pug" (an evil aunt in the registry at the clinic, a boorish man in the subway, a colleague with a low level of cultural and intellectual development, etc.) begins to "bark" at a person who is essentially - "elephant", he has inner strength and a high level of organization. But the elephant man, instead of remembering that he is an elephant, and not noticing the pug, falls into his childhood trauma of relations with his parents. He begins to feel small, defenseless and helpless, and in the pug he sees someone who is bigger and stronger, and even smarter and more beautiful, and in general in every possible way better, who can evaluate him, devalue, scold and humiliate him, who must be listened to. and follow all her / his instructions. The elephant turns into a mouse, and the pug triumphantly walks through the crowd of onlookers, who, in general, do not care about everything, but they take the side of the winner, in this case the pug.
And this will continue until death, if the elephant for itself, in its own perception, does not become mature and adult, adequate to its age, status and inner essence, and does not see in the pug just a little stupid dog, which is pointless to pay attention to …
We are working with this. Growing up, growing up, understanding “Who am I? What am I?”, The ability to see other people, and not the figures of parents. With the crawling out of helplessness - into strength, out of defenselessness - into the organization of healthy boundaries and the acquisition of self-esteem. But in order to grow, you need someone to grow. It is necessary to find contact with that wounded little child who was undeservedly and unjustly offended by big and strong people, although they should have been protected, not offended. Protect him, warm him with his warmth, help him go through pain, resentment and helplessness, help him feel his strength and reveal his essence. Find in yourself this little scared "mouse", support him, nurture and help him see the Elephant in himself.
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