2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Great happiness and joy when children appear in your life! How many expectations, dreams, hopes are associated with them! A great multitude. And if a child grows up healthy and happy, parents have more than enough joy and pride
There are parents who are passionately in love with their child, living his (child's) life 100%. Your life, development - then, whatever - be it. Or from that passionate love education is passed on to nannies, grandmothers, along with responsibility. And there are those who just love: quietly, for real, every day.
In my opinion, these are two completely different types of love. The first is imposed, sticky, controlling, constraining, having extremes and its consequences. The second is based on trust, respect, understanding, support, helping to grow and become able to love. To love life, people, animals and the whole world around. This kind of love teaches us to be grateful for everything in life.
Parents want to give the very best to their children. Many people succeed in this, but there are those who all their lives “tried as best they could” and children becoming adults still “demand and want”. Only a manifestation of love, they now call a house, a car, pleasure, travel … And the parent, without leaving his role (option number 1) is trying 100% … to prove "his love". Very quickly, fatigue, despair, irritation, anger come into the life of such people. “Our years are not the same,” “Health is not that,” “What do you know how to do in life?”
Once, while crossing Pasteur Street in Odessa, I helped a very old woman carry a rather heavy bag of potatoes across the road. We got to talking. By the way, very charming and sociable people live in Odessa. So my grandmother at the age of 84 was carrying this potato … to her son Volodya. At the time of the "food delivery" our Volodya was 60 years old! He himself was already a grandfather and completely healthy. To my question: "How is that?", There was an answer - "He is my son! Yes, and Volodenka does not understand potatoes well. It is a pity that the forces are not the same. " For a long time I stood on the sidewalk and looked at the trail of the grandmother slowly leaving in the distance. Sad. She never allowed little Volodenka to become Vladimir in her life. Option number 1. There is nothing to add.
To love means to trust, to be an example, a mentor, an authority. To love is to be able to speak “YOU” with your child and to respect HIS WORLD very much, to KNOW IT and not to be a stranger in his life. To love is to allow your child to go through all the stages of growing up and become responsible for his life, destiny.
I really want many parents to have enough wisdom, courage, education, flair and faith in themselves so that their children in adulthood take the most useful and necessary - values and guidelines based on love. Then you are not at all scared for the children, because you are confident in them and you know them. I really want every parent to experience this happiness. And maybe then it will not be necessary in his 84 years to keep potatoes "to his Volodenka" …
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