Tyzhpsychologist

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I already wrote about why you shouldn't be friends with your psychologist. Now I will write why you should not use the services of your friends.

Every now and then in an informal setting I hear from friends: "#tyzhpsychologist - advise." It is as if I told my neighbor gynecologist during a friendly feast: "you are a doctor - look." The beauty of psychotherapy is that you can appear emotionally naked in front of a specialist, discarding fears and doubts, moral values and notions of decency. You can be yourself - without embellishment: get angry and scream, cry and be killed, laugh and rejoice, talk about the innermost and shameful. You can take off your mask and be honest about your feelings, anxieties, thoughts, and plans. A good specialist will not only provide you with careful support, but also full acceptance without evaluation or depreciation - all in complete confidentiality.

Now tell me if you can be completely free with someone who is a part of your family, with whom you have mutual friends, who is talking on the phone with your mother or grilling kebabs with your husband. Will you be comfortable “undressing” in front of someone who, in addition to professional, has social contacts with you and your loved ones? I guess not. And even if you are confident in a friend's decency and his ability to keep secrets, will you be able to overcome the fear of losing face, show weakness, tell the truth about your marriage, childhood, failures?

And then don't forget about the other side of the relationship. Will you be able to objectively perceive as a specialist the one with whom you drink at brotherhood? Will you trust the person, knowing about his shortcomings, family relationships, health problems? It is no accident that ideally (in psychoanalysis, for example) the therapist's personality should be as neutral as possible for the client. And the goal is not even to preserve the professional face of a specialist, but to ensure that nothing prevents the client from meeting himself. If you are used to thinking of a psychologist as a tool for self-knowledge, then consider him a magnifying glass. The more transparent it is, the easier it will be for you to see yourself from the inside. Good luck. Together we can handle it.

How often do we hear these words? And what feelings do they evoke? Well, for example, you have a hard day, everything is falling out of your hands, the child is capricious, the cat broke the vase, and the husband stayed at work and forgot to warn you.

Profession "tyzhpsychologist"

Quite often they hear in their address the phrase "you are a psychologist …" and this is usually followed by many variations on the topic of what a "real psychologist" should do and not do. For example: -You are a psychologist, advise … (and then the story goes for 40 minutes, with details of the life circumstances of the person who met you at the moment somewhere on the street or in the entrance.