Tyzhpsychologist

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

How often do we hear these words? And what feelings do they evoke?

Well, for example, you have a hard day, everything is falling out of your hands, the child is capricious, the cat broke the vase, and the husband stayed at work and forgot to warn you. You call your mom or your best friend in the hope that they will pat you on the head and say “don’t worry, honey, everything will be fine”. Yes, these are the warm, friendly words that you can never use in your consultations. But you are not in consultation! You don't want to dig into the root cause! It so happened that you are quite satisfied with your husband, son and cat, just days like today happen when you want to rest from all of them. Or just to hear the cherished “everything will be fine”. And with renewed vigor, fly to remove the fragments, wash the child from the ground from the flowerpot and meet the guilty husband with a smile, and not with reproaches.

But what could happen? You will hear the surprised "Tyzhpsychologist" in the receiver and a million household recommendations, none of which you will ever use.

Or so. A friend calls you and begins to tell you how bad everything is with her and "tell me what to do". And you hang up with the tube in your hands because there is actually nothing to do there. Or vice versa, it is necessary, but not for you, as a friend, but for another psychologist, as a specialist, not burdened with personal relationships. And as a friend, you can only pat on the head and say "everything will be fine." But for some reason this is not enough.

When you are tired, ill, not in the mood, dissatisfied, offended - someone will definitely tell you this "tyzhpsychologist".

I just want to walk with a sign that the fact that you are a psychologist does not mean that you are on heavy tranquilizers. Yes, you solve many problems faster and easier. But someone will say that he has no problems at all - poke him with a stick. For with living people this happens only on a desert island or in the case of complete Zen.

Nobody asks the economist - where is his three-story house and bentley? The doctor is not asked again in surprise, how did he manage to catch a cold? Yes, and oddly enough, but in a family of teachers, children may well sometimes shout and not listen to their parents, there is no need to make round eyes.

Worse is something else … Sometimes I'm scared that the day will come and instead of smiling at the "tyzhprisolog" I will start to diagnose people, tell her on the phone that her boss is a classic schizoid type and instead of "everything will be fine" ask her "and what are you felt when he said it? What did you think about? And what sense does it have for you? ", And absolutely never (absolutely!) I will not be angry with my husband, because he is not a" gouge who forgot to call ", but he simply has" protection by the method of displacement. " It’s scary because then I will really believe that "I am a psychologist" and my opinion is true in the last instance. It is scary, because within a radius of ten meters from the oppressive authority of such a person, the flowerpots will wither and the children will cry, and when the phrase "do you want to talk?" the husband will have a nervous tic.

Just believe me - you don't need a "tyzhpsychologist" as a friend. And relatives are not needed. Nobody is obliged to carry their work home! The surgeon's wife will not want to listen to a fascinating lecture for an hour and a half about purulent peritonitis, and the accountant's husband about the peculiarities of bringing the annual report down to a penny in detail. The dad of not the most educated children can be an excellent teacher of mathematics, and a disheveled girl with traces of toothpaste on her sleeve, who jumped out in sweatpants for bread, is the best hairdresser and make-up artist in town.

Do not make idols out of people, give the right to good specialists to be not ideal people in life.

And good luck to you!