2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When I was just starting to study Gestalt therapy, one of the discoveries that impressed me most at that moment was the idea that anxiety is a restrained action. This is excitement.
I think many of those who for the first time (or even every time) performed in front of the audience noticed their excitement, anxiety, fear, just before the performance and at the very beginning. And they noticed that, as the performance progressed, the excitement subsided, ending by the end of the performance either with calmness or euphoria. Thus, the performed action removes the anxiety that arose before it began.
A similar mechanism works with OCD - trying to get rid of obsessive thoughts that cause anxiety, a person comes up with rituals and performs some actions aimed at calming this anxiety.
Check if the iron is turned off before leaving; check again if all the necessary documents are with you before the trip; the sit down ritual are all healthy examples of actions we unknowingly do to reduce anxiety.
Problems begin when anxiety and anxiety are perceived by a person as something in itself shameful or scary, as something that should be avoided. For example, erythrophobia is the fear of blushing in public.
Since excitement is a normal physiological reaction of the body, it is impossible to avoid it in life. A person will certainly face his excitement, and if he seeks to avoid these feelings, then, upon discovering the physical manifestations of his excitement, the person will be frightened, feelings will intensify, developing into anxiety, and anxiety will further strengthen the physiological reaction, and so one will intensify the other, while reaction to sweaty palms will not end with a panic attack.
What to do?
Accept that emotions have a physiological basis, and many emotional reactions do not depend on your ideas about yourself.
Accept the fact that the excitement before the exam, which is subjectively perceived as something negative, like anxiety, has the same physiological component as the excitement that we experience before the first date, or before some event that is subjectively perceived as pleasant.
Allow yourself to feel the excitement. Do not be afraid that other people will notice it - they, like you, people, which means they also have feelings.
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