Cut! Your Video Answer To Troubles

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

All difficult experiences must be expressed. But expressed in a safe and environmentally friendly way.

You can pour out your experiences on paper, canvas, a page of a diary or a blog, dance, sports, meditation, or, for example, a walk or a bike ride are no less effective.

Each person should have their own method of getting out of their personal emotional vortex. This is an absolutely natural question that everyone should ask themselves, otherwise …

In the first case, unexpressed experience, tension or discontent is wound into a kind of ball, which at the first opportunity is unwound by an emotional explosion.

In the second case, unexpressed and coiled up experiences become a block that affects two important life spheres - relationships and self-realization (creativity).

In fact, most of our global problems would not appear if we had a habit of keeping track of our thoughts and signals that this or that solution is uncomfortable for us.

So, most of the existing emotional problems would be solved by simply saying your emotional reaction out loud!

The first question is, again, what should be done in an environmentally friendly and safe way for oneself and others.

The second question sounds like this: to change the reaction to what is happening, once speaking your emotional reaction is not enough.

The next important conclusion is as follows.

Most existing emotional problems would be resolved by instantaneously capturing the emergence of discontent, tension, or an unpleasant experience. And after an attempt to compare with a similar feeling already experienced earlier, thereby realizing that current problems are influenced by long-forgotten experiences.

It sounds a little complicated, but … This is worth understanding just for the sake of the feeling of freedom and relief that will bring awareness: existing problems are nothing more than unexpressed experiences in the past. By eliminating unexpressed experience in the past, most of the existing emotional problems of a similar nature in the present are also reduced to naught.

Let's say we want to get rid of these nodules according to the principle: having defined a feeling, try to remember its original source. Then you will have to take into account the fact that such introspection can take from several hours to several days, require additional resources in the form of time and money (I mean the help of a psychologist or psychotherapist).

Do we all have this opportunity? Even if this is so, I will put the question differently: is everyone really interested in devoting their time and resources to giving an outlet to previously unexpressed experiences?

As practice shows, people are not ready for such sacrifices and efforts, even if they know that this can affect their present and future. Most people do not even know about this state of affairs, moreover, the sphere of feelings and emotions for them is terra incognita.

The expression of previously unexpressed emotions really affects the change in the perception of the existing problem. At the same time, it does not matter the place, time, circumstance under which this feeling was not expressed, the main thing is the intention to express it.

With this conclusion, we came to the understanding that healing does not necessarily involve immersion in the past, resorting to the help of a specialist, or on our own.

I call it cleanup. In order to clean an apartment, it is not necessary to analyze all the rubbish that created the mess. You just need to pick it up and remove it.

It is also not necessary to analyze your emotional junk. And be sympathetic to the fact that other people have it. Chances are, throwing away this emotional garbage does not directly concern you. More precisely, it does not concern at all, they just did not have the opportunity to get rid of it in a timely manner.

Having cleared of your similar emotional "garbage", this understanding will be much easier to manifest. It's just that one fine moment comes an understanding that your inner world is so generous and wide that it can allow others to any of their manifestations.

Remember the virtual space, that we associate ourselves with our photographs and videos? That's great, the path of all our experiences about this or that problem situation or trouble is now scrolling OUT of our inner emotional space!

More about the video method

Imagine that you are watching a feature film in which the storyline develops dramatically: the main characters enter into relationships, feel, suffer, try to overcome problems.

I think each of us caught ourselves guessing about the feelings of the heroes. We can to some extent even try to predict, to tune in with how the storyline will develop in accordance with what we were able to feel. This only testifies to the fact that each person is able to be attentive, sensitive to the observation of their emotions, just when it comes to our personal experiences, for some reason we find ourselves at a loss. We look to friends and psychologists for advice and guidance, rather than trying to just listen to ourselves.

In order to discover this ability, just try to shift your angle of view and open your own resource, which is able to give you the ability to control your reactions to troubles.

Remember that most existing emotional problems would be resolved by instantly detecting the appearance of discontent, tension, or an unpleasant experience? And having caught it, would I try to compare it with a similar feeling already experienced earlier, thereby realizing that current problems are influenced by long-forgotten experiences?

This is really true. But trying in this way to manifest all unmanifest experiences, we risk turning our life into one big session of psychotherapy. Yes, we are responsible for releasing unlived experiences, but in some way we are not directly to blame for their appearance. Moreover, working with your own emotions is like walking in a minefield.

I approached the realization of the idea of a "button", which affects our emotional sphere, more precisely, is able to change the reaction to emotionally significant events.

Of course, one click will not do, you will also have to work with emotions, but bold and breakthrough natures will certainly appreciate my method and its simplicity. Not to mention the fact that you don't have to turn your life into a psychotherapy session in a literal and figurative sense.

I propose to start by trying to look at your troubles from the outside, and do it in the literal sense of the word.

Try recording a short video in which you consciously, openly and sincerely speak out an emotionally significant situation, and then watch this video a number of times until your reaction to this situation changes.

I think you have noticed this peculiarity: you like the song and you play it in your head a myriad of times, and then you want to listen to it again and again. You hear it not only at home, but also on the street, in cafes, in transport. And after a while, you realize that the song no longer causes the delight that you had at the very beginning. This is because you have given this song too much emotional coloring, which is why it evokes such importance in your emotional space. Later, when you have heard this song dozens, or even hundreds of times, the emotional coloring and uniqueness subside, because you no longer like the song, or, at least, you have become indifferent to it.

I suggest taking the relevance and uniqueness away from your emotionally significant situation in a similar way, by watching the “emotional” video multiple times.

The necessary skills are a focus on yourself, your condition, as on the only resource that can neutralize the problem that needs to be resolved.

I have already mentioned that any specialist only helps to find the way to those of your own resources that did not previously know the way out. The purpose of this book and the practice of the video method is to develop the skills of self-management of your emotional sphere, giving it due attention, so that you control it, not you.

On the other hand, I would like to warn those who are looking for easy ways. Despite the apparent ease of the method, a considerable amount of emotional work will have to be done by performing a powerful, but targeted action aimed at changing the reaction to an emotionally significant situation.

What effect does the exercise to eliminate emotional contradiction with the use of video give and how does it work

• The most important effect of the method: by speaking the problem, you seem to leave it outside your inner space. Now it is recorded on an external resource - you can literally do anything with it: mount, erase, look several times;

• Repetition is the mother of learning, so the recorded video should be watched several times. Our minds are pretty lazy. But it can also be tricked by making it work in order to remove old installations, replacing them with new ones. It is by connecting the auditory and visual channels together, while simultaneously assimilating verbal and non-verbal information, that you push your consciousness to pay attention to the long-standing problems stored in your subconscious;

• In the process of “freeing” from the problem, completely different images may emerge from the subconscious, perhaps your emotions will not be connected with the object of your offense (see the book “Internal emotional contradiction”). You should pay attention to these insights, write them down, and next time do the same exercise, but this time to work out feelings for the earlier "offender".

• The most important effect: when watching a video, you see yourself able to openly express emotions and feelings, you will be ready to work with them. This skill will gain a foothold in your mind pretty quickly, so later you will have no reason to accumulate unnecessary things.

• You will also automatically begin to pay more attention to your needs and current conditions, instantly tracking them.

• By recording your experience on video, you seem to create a different reality. In the video, this reality is already outdated - there you and your discontent. A new reality is already created in your mind immediately after you “cleanse” the emotional problem from it.

• It is your personal effort, an action to release emotional barriers and internal blocks. The video method is much more effective than, for example, repeating affirmations created by other people, or attending seminars that were not invented by you. The video method is another step towards confidence and awareness of the value of oneself as a person capable of solving their own problems. An excellent method for developing the state of "First, fill yourself with yourself."

• As you talk about problems, you will see how unusual you look when you are offended. You don't know how you look from the outside when you are in a state of unresolved problem (often you will not like something in your behavior, speech, non-verbal signals - posture, gestures, facial expressions). Your appearance on video (often, but not always!) Will symbolize that your inner state is not yet fully in shape. This will be noticeable by posture, stiffness, intonation and other signs.

• The criterion that the problem is resolved will be the state of "Anyway" in relation to the object that caused your emotional problem.

It is possible with a light heart to defiantly delete the video when the problem has already been resolved. With this action, you seem to erase your old, emotionally filled reality.

Osokina Elena (c)