2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In a couple of weeks, for many children who have reached the age of three, an amazing kindergarten time will begin. At the same time, for some of their parents it will be a blessing ("Hurray, I can finally go to work!"), And for some - absolute torment ("how is she - my blood?").
I noticed that the best adapt to kindergarten and much less sick children, whose parents cannot be with the children at home and it will be extremely difficult for them to sit with the child even on sick leave. For example, mom and dad both work, and the income of each of them is extremely important in the family's financial system. They literally easily "push" the child out of the house into the garden without feeling any remorse. We have to work, and the child must be in the garden. And no long persuasion and long-term adaptations (this is when at first for a few hours in the garden, and only then, when you adapt, you can have lunch and go to sleep).
If the mother is very worried about whether it is worth going to kindergarten at all, or with a heavy heart leaves the child on the threshold of the kindergarten, then the child cries, wants to go nowhere and is often sick.
Why is this happening? It's all about the "heavy heart" of the mother. If she is not completely sure that everything will be fine with the child in the kindergarten, the child scans her feelings. There is nothing more alarming for a child than a frightened and insecure mom. He experiences everything that she is worried about: it is bad in the garden, it is dangerous in the garden, it is better to spend as little time as possible or not walk at all.
A completely different option, when the mother, without a shadow of doubt, without any frightening thoughts, firmly and confidently says goodbye to the child, knowing that everything will be fine. Such children are not very sick, such children do not suffer in the kindergarten, moreover, they enjoy life there and absorb all the good (exactly good!) That the kindergarten can give.
The same thing happens with the school. The more anxiety the mother has, the more difficult it is for the child. And the more "indifferent" the mother is about the school process, the easier it is for the child.
The best thing a mother can do is to be absolutely calm about the child in kindergarten or school and perceive the world as safe and bright. Then the child will perceive the world through the prism of such a model of perception, which, you see, would be nice.
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