2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Old New Year's Eve is a great time to give yourself another gift. I offer you an exercise for "harvesting the year": taking stock, integrating experience, realizing what is happening, putting things in order - in a metaphorical form.
Prepare space for yourself: time that you can devote only to yourself (from 20 minutes), a place in which it will be comfortable for you to sit, as well as it is convenient to make notes, sheets of paper and a pen.
During the exercise, you will dive into yourself, into your imagination, and also take notes. If you can easily switch between imagination and reality, you can take notes in the process, as suggested in the text of the exercise. If it is difficult to switch, then you can first do whatever is needed in your imagination, and then take notes.
Sit comfortably, tune in, feel your body, feel your breath.
Think of your life as a garden. And give yourself enough time to get a good look at this garden
What is he?
What size, what shape?
How is it fenced off?
What's growing in it?
Who lives in it (animals, insects, birds, people, magical creatures)?
What buildings are there, what paths?
Are there any dedicated zones, sections in it? Which? For what? What do they have? How are they connected?
Who cares for plants, paths, buildings?
Where are the care tools stored and in what condition are they?
What's around him?
Can someone come to visit this garden? For what?
What are the rules in it?
Are there enemies or pests? What helps the garden to protect itself from them?
What role do you play in this garden, what place do you occupy, who are you in this garden?
How do you like this garden? Like it or not? What exactly? What feelings do you have in him and in relation to him?
What would you call it?
Take three deep breaths, come back to reality and write down the answers to these questions. After that, close your eyes again, tune in to yourself, feel your body and continue your acquaintance with the garden
Take a close look at what happened in this garden over the past year? What has changed in it?
Maybe something new has grown? What's this? How do you like the new plants? What do they give to the garden? What are they in it for? How did they appear in it?
Maybe there are new residents or guests? Who is this? How did they come about? For what? What are they doing for the garden? How do you like them?
Maybe something stopped growing or some of the residents and guests left? Because of which? What has changed from this? How do you like this?
Maybe new buildings have appeared? Or did the old ones collapse? Maybe the fence or surroundings have changed? Maybe your role in the garden has changed or the degree of your participation in his life?
Come back to reality and write down the changes that have occurred this year. And then return to the garden space again
Listen to yourself: what is important to do for the garden right now? Do it.
Maybe it is important to weed out weeds, lay new paths, renovate buildings, buy a new tool, treat trees from pests? Maybe something else is important? Look elsewhere for what's important. And do it. Maybe you now have a new name for your garden? What is it like?
Go back to reality and write down all the changes you made. Listen to yourself - what are they for you? What can this mean for you in life? Write it down. Now go back to the garden space again and start harvesting.
See which fruits are ripe and ready to be harvested? What are the fruits? Edible or not edible? (It happens that the garden gives not only an edible harvest, it can also be some objects.) Are these the fruits of this year or have they grown and ripened for several years? Walk around the garden and pick the ripe fruit. What did you collect them into? How do you like the harvested crop? What does each fruit give you? How will you dispose of what you have collected?
Find the best use for each fruit. Give a name to the harvested crop. How do you feel when you have reaped such a crop? Listen to yourself: why do you need this, what is it about in your life, what can you do with it in the best way?
Go back to reality and record the harvest
Reread the notes you made during this exercise. How does this compare to your life? What new have you learned about yourself, about your life, about what happened during the year? Underline the most important phrases
So, you looked at your life, saw what happened in a year, put things in order and reaped a harvest of experience.
If you have the desire and opportunity, you can draw "My life is like a garden" (it can be a drawing or a plan-diagram). Be sure to give a name to the picture, look at it from different angles, find out what changes you want to make, and make these changes (after that you can change the name as well).
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Pictured is a painting by artist Egidio Antonaccio
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